Madlike

I mean, you have to think she isn’t yours. She isn’t your girlfriend. Are you catching feelings already?

Put your mom as a priority.

You’re right. If he truly wants you , you will know it. He will move heaven and earth to be with you if that’s something he is sure about.

He doesn’t sound like he thinks so clear anyway … or wisely.

Yes he does. He will end this marriage too and start up with you . He sounds confused and seems like he is still looking for the “one”.

Part of you wonder what it may be like to date your first love . It’s probably him . He’s on your mind a lot. I think in your head you’d prefer your first love. I don’t know what happened why you weren’t with them in the first place .

Even if he has feelings for his ex, do you think he’d be willing to leave her for his first love? Soemtimes the first love is always the “one”. Do you really have strong feelings for your ex, more than your bf?

Harmful relationship, you say? What harm is being done to you, because that does not sound safe

Sorry about your loss. I’ve had something similar happen to me. question though, how come you ended up getting a girlfriend but you couldn’t ask the other girl to be your girl? Is your current GF not serious?

Agreed with the poster above. They also want power over you. It makes them feel better about themself knowing that you were the one in the wrong instead of them. It feels good for a toxic person to know it was the other persons fault, not their’s. It’s also apart of being in control.

also what dignity? Your self respect is already diminished by trying to get back with an abuser like that!

Yeah and communicate more often about your whereabouts. If she isn’t giving you reassurance then ask for that. Ideally she should be spending more time with you overall.

You just have to trust her then . You seem so confident in her already. If you can’t do long distance then you need to break it off until you can move there. Long distance comes with trust

What is it that you truly want? You need to be very firm with the first guy. You can’t be weak. Hold your foot down and tell him that you want to move on. Actually do it. When an abuser knows they can bring you back, they will do what it takes or say anything to you because they know you will stay If you say you messed up, then is he truly what you want? No.

You just have to trust her then. Ask her to communicate with you while she is with him. Update you. If you’re so confident in her, what’s the worry?

Not sure what a bonus baby is. I’m guessing it’s some form of payment (baby bonus?). About the first guy, couldn’t agree more. The first one is a manipulative abuser. As soon as he sees you’re moving on to a someone new, here come the lies, the manipulation, whatever it takes to “save” his ego the torture of rejection. Don’t believe his lies. Abusers will take you on an endless cycle. They always claim they will change but will say what it takes to make you stay. The second one, looks like he won’t commit fully yet. He’s stuck in the middle. If you like him, you better stand your ground with the first one. The first already got too many chances anyway. Unless you like being stuck in a toxic relationship

He wants He will continue to do the same thing to another woman. If a guy really wants someone, no matter what happened in his past, he will find a way to make it work. He wants to explore other women without having someone stop him from that. But he doesn't want you to find someone else. His intentions aren't pure. Someone with good intentions would let you go and tell you upfront he isn't ready. He sounds very narcississtic and toxic. You deserve so much better. Don't let him trap you. This guy is never going to commit. Find someone who is all about you, who truly cares about you, and who wouldn't cheat and lie about it - gas light you. Trust me when I say there is much better out there than this guy. When you find it, you will never remember him. Leave him to be unhappy for the rest of his life. And watch him blame you for leaving him.

He doesn't want to be with you but doesn't want to see you with anyone else. Sure his feelings may be true for you (who knows though), but he isn't ready to be with you. You didn't push him, he wanted something with you too, but he realized he needs to heal in order to appreciate you He also wants to see other people. That isn't just a joke Dont listen to him, work on yourself and don't wait for him. It could take quite a while before he's ready

Lol . This guy said all you need to know for his intentions with you . He doesn’t like you more than a friend . Trust me when I say a guy will date a girl if he truly likes her , whether he is not over his ex or not , he would be willing to take a chance because he truly likes you ! Just forget it unless you want to settle for his scraps , he is good at saying things in a nice way to be honest . Lol !