I've been reading the forums for the past little while here... since my boyfriend broke up with me. Well... last night was just the tipping point.
This may get a bit long, but I'll try to keep it short.
He broke up with me on May the first. It was the abolsute worst day he could break up with me. It was on a Sunday. Keep in mind, May the 19th would have been our 1 year and half anniversary.
That weekend, was my first weekend of my new job. So on the friday night when I call, he says he is acting all weird and I say: "I guess you don't want to talk?" and he's like: "No, not really." So I hung up the phone confused. I didn't know what was going on. I told him to call me when he feels like telling me what's up. Saturday passes by and then Sunday. I started getting really, really upset. The first days at my job were VERY stressful. I was so upset...
Anyway, Sunday night he calls me up and tells me that he's breaking up with me. I was just in complete shock, so I was just like.. okay...huh? He told me he still wanst to be friends. I told him I'd think about it.
I loved him to death... I did the big nonos of a relationship. I let him take over my life. I lost contact with all my friends from high school. This past year was my first year of cegep. Anyway, I made some new friends, but mostly I just hung around with him. I let him be my everything. Anyway, so this past april I told myself to get my life back in line. And so I started making more friends, I was getting a new job, I was getting back on track. But I was still loving him and caring for him and everything. Everything seemed to be ok.
Well, the thing is, this summer he's going to have 3 jobs. Summer camp, a technical support for this store and video game testing.
The next 3 days I was incredibly upset. I layed down on my couch and didn't get up. I cried and bawled my eyes out. Finally, when I talked to him again, I got him to explain why. He told me that he foresaw bad times coming up and he wanted to end our relationship on a good note, not a bad one. And that he wasn't sure if he loved me anymore. Now... none of this makes sense. He felt like my soul-mate of sorts. Like, we just connected so well. And out of nowhere this happens. And I don't understand why. I guess most don't at these times.
I coudln't bring myself to go to school I was so upset. Now this was my last week of school. I just couldn't go. And not to mention the fact that I was in a group with his best friend for our last project. So I really couldn't let myself go to that class. I have to pass 4 classes in order to stay in cegep.. I was only taking 4 classes at the time.
Anyway, by the end of that week, I made myself believe things could be okay. I continued going to work etc... then this past week happened. And suddenly I realized again, that he wasn't away on vacation... that he wasn't going to come back to me. And it threw me totally off. I quit my job because it was really bad besides the whole fact that I had negative feelinsg towards it from him breaking up with me on my first weekend. I would have kept going just to have something to do, but I was at the point of coming to tears. It's a customer service job which is really stressful.
So then yesterday I checked my grades... and I guess I had disillusioned myself that I'd still pass those classes anyway... but I was wrong. I only passed 2 classes. That means I'm getting kicked out of my school and it's too late to apply elsewhere.
I feel so incredibly lost right now. I had also tried going out with this other guy because at that point I thought I was over my ex. But wow... was I wrong. We went to see star wars last week together and I just felt disgusting. I was really uncomfortable and I just wanted to get away from him. So I feel bad for leading him on. But I told him we'd go as friends and see what would happen. I guess he got the wrong vibes because he kissed me and eveything and I had to leave and go home. I still talk to him and he keeps wanting to see me, even only as friend... but I feel like I really messed up.
It feels like everything is going so wrong for me. I feel so stupid for putting that much trust in him. Now, he doesn't even care if we stay friends or not. I had been talking to him, but it was hurting too much, so I started NC on Sunday. He doesn't give a crap at all. How could someone love you and then just not anymore?
It just hurts so much... like I can't believe that this could be happening. I can't see a future in which he's not in it. It makes life feel so empty and lonely. I do have my friends and family, but I don't want them, I want him.
I'd do anything to have him back, even though logically I know he was a really bad boyfriend. I don't want to go on and bash him here and why he was so bad...
But I just feel so weak and stupid. I want him back and there's no way he'll ever come back.
I don't know what to do with myself anymore. I thought I was making progress but I was just hiding all of my pain from myself.
We have so many memories and things together... like at this time last year we were getting ready for prom...
It just hurts getting reminded of anything. I even took away everything that I could that reminded me of him... but like, my bed, my computer even.. is a reminder... because he helped me pick it out.
It hurts so much. I don't know what to do anymore.