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We are high school sweethearts, so it didn't start out like this. Only the last couple of years have been like this. He still says he loves me, and coudn't live without me, but is married more to his work than me. I try all of the time to "get the feeling back" but his thoughts are always about "money", and says "there is no life without money" Children, well I have been talking about having children, but he's stalling, again stating that he has too much stress, and not enough money, although we are not doing badly. He's just not interested at this time..what do you say to that??? I will get to the point eventually where this will certainly become an issue. Right now I guess the only person that makes me feel good, is my co-worker, and some of you for reading all of this......and giving me suggestions/opinions......

well I always try to focus on my husband, but he's not really the romantic type, actually not at all. He works all of the time (so he says) so I barely see him, and when I do he's usually thinking about work. I don't know for sure that he's faithful.. He travels a lot, entertains a lot of visitiors for work, so he's home late a lot of the time. He always makes comments like " for men, it's not such a big deal if they sleep with another woman, it doesn't really mean anything, and most men don't think about it, they just do it, married or not, so we have a lot of discussion about this topic. I guess that I have gone ahead and flirted with this other man, maybe out of anger, I don't know for sure. Maybe, I'm just missing the attention from husband. We have been married for 9 yrs, so maybe this is what happens after being married for awhile, I don't know...

ok, I get the mesasge, you don't have to bite my head off... I'm not saying it's right, I just wanted some opinions...obviously I'm way over my head here, but I just can't stop thinking of this other man. Like I said, I still want to be with my husband, but I'm drawn to this other man, and I can't seem to escape him...yes wanting to be with him, sexullay is wrong...I know, and I haven't done anything yet....I guess I'm afraid of what I might do..if put in that position... sorry if it it came accross as asking for confirmation, my mistake.. but I guess the real issue here is how to forget about this man, and as some_guy282 mentioned, he will contact me by e-mail all the time...and I will reply to him.... I'm finding it really hard to try and get this other man out of my thoughts....

firstly you guys are acting like no one has ever had a fling... let's get real. I mean these things happen all the time. I'm not saying it's right, but how many people do you know that are loyal to their spouses, most are not, and who's to say that our spouses are faithful??? Have any of you ever felt so strongly about another person. It doesnt mean you don't love your spouse, it just means that you care about another person.

I have been working with someone now for awhile, and we really get along. We are both attracted to each other physically, and intellectually..but we're both married. we have flirted now for about a year, gone out for lunch, never any "real" contact.... We flirt alot, and joke with each other, sexually and really enjoy it. We both want to stay with our partners, but we can't stop meeting each other for more and more flirting... now he mentioned one day that we should go out for lunch. He mentioned by e-mail a name of a hotel...now up till now we have joked aroung and even teased each other of such things but it was always a mutual agreement in a way that, that would never happen. So I kind of ignored it, and he just mentioned a restaurant that we should go to. So we had lunch and did not discuss any further, although I really wanted him to tell me that he wanted to be with me.. Now I find out that he is being transferred to Europe for two years. ..I'm very happy for him, but will miss him like crazy...I know what is on his mind, and I really want to be with him before he goes.... What to you think, should I spend the night with him???