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Hey i wanna thank everyone for thier opions and im so happy that i found this site. It helped me get alot of ideas and helped me through this time.It was my dream to get my girl back.Anyone thats wants to read my old post its link removed . Well this is how i tryed to get her back...after i told her i loved her i just tryed to show her when we were friends how much of a nice guy i was and took her out to dinner and bought her flowers ...now i know alot of people on here might think thats being a wussy method and treat her man keep her keen is the way to go well...ive never used to use this on her and when i did,it did not go down well at all,i suppose if u are going to use this method u would have to use it from the start of knowing a new person.I just kept doing really nice sweet things for her,we were sleeping with eachother and she went through a stage when i wasn't allowed to touch her as she didn't want me to think i had her cause we were doing things...So a few weeks of no touching showed her i was not just after one thing and then she said she loved me and would i be her b/f again.This was my dream come true im so lucky.Look what i am turned off about is the fact now i know in the 5 all most 6 months we were broken up she sleped with other guys and i wanna know how many,which might not be my business but neverless i wanna know.She wouldn't tell me she said u have me now thats not important,so i asked her did she use any protection and she said no.Now im worried as i haven't used anything with her and its such a turn off.She said she was pretty much anyone's and she needed this time to find her self as a person and now she knows what we have is real and is right and wants to be with me forever,She said her getting around days are over>i found some photo's of a guy she was seing (sex buddy) in her album and he has tats on his body and its just a big turnoff to see these things.I kinda feel like im degrading myself now when i sleep with her.Wonder if these feelings i have will go away of keep bugging me ,seams now she wants me ,i like her but she seams more worthless to me now.i believe she had probably sleped with about 8 guys in the 5 months and used no protection at all.She also lied to me about a guy she sleped with ,saying she didn't before and when i questioned her again she said she did.Maybe it just is better to start Fresh ,I think its a bit hard to go back when there have been alot of guys in between you.What does everyone think about this,would these things bother most of you people.I thing for sure im making her and myself go to the doctors to get tested for stds.

Hey well i have some updated news....i have seen my ex now a few times again since and been getting very mixed signals.I couldn't take it any longer and just came out with it and said that i stilled loved her and wanted her back,she acted like she had no idea and she said you don't want me back,i said i did.She started crying and said why do all guys all want to be more then friends with me.She said she just wanted to be my best friend now....but we are doing all the things lovers do...well i said is there a chance we could ever get back together again in the future and she said yes.What should i do...im in no real rush to find someone new and would do anything to have her back,but somehow i do feel like im a safety blanket and as much as i would like to spent time with her,its time i could be looking for someone else.Now ive been spending the last 4 weekends with her and she rings me and sometimes we go out for a coffee during the week,we kiss and do everything couples would do,ive met her mum again,sometimes my ex acts a little cold to me.What have people done in this situation...im prepared to give her 3 months to come to her senses.She told me she didn't want a b/f ....i said ,u don't want to be my g/f atm but im sure if a cute guy came along and you liked him ,then you would go out with him and she said thats not the case,do people think im crazy waiting and if a girl acts like this to me after 2 yrs together with 5 months break,seams like she is in no real rush to have me back.She is quite happy about the idea of me getting a new g/f ,i said im not interested and want her back.Guess i'll play the waiting game for now.Atleast she rings me and wants to spend every weekend with me that has to be a good sign...just don't know if i should always be available for her or not see her as much so she can miss me,basicially we see each other on the weekends and not alot during the week,hope that way she will miss me more.Any ideas?

Ok thankyou for everyone who replied to my last post....its on page 2 if anyone hasn't read it. Well i can understand that people think she is using me for her safty blanket...i spoke to her last night on the fone and we have arranged going into the city on saturday night.She said something about me and my mate should find new girl friends....why would she say this to me if she might me keen?is she jelous,or is she testing me? Well i don't want to get hurt again,but i have to do this,i am going to try and sort out this mess or whats going on,my question is should i play this game with her for like a month or so ,causethat way she will only see me during the weekend and we will have great days together and ,during the week she will miss me....or should i just come out with it and say (whats going on,i still have feelings for you,can this lead anywhere)?? i Read somewhere...You can push by trying to convince her,in which case you'll usually meet with resistance,or you can pull back,and let things start slowly,which will will make it far more likely that things will continue to the next level.The real key here is to walk into every situation with a woman not expecting anything,or without being overly concerned with the outcome. what should i do....i don't want to be played or be a safety blanket,but im willing to give it time if thats required,i know i won't have a 3rd chance and don't want to blow it,by saying something and pusing her 2 soon,what do you reckon people?

Hi I have a question to ask...Ive been been going out with this girl for 2 years and couldn't be happier she was the love of my life and we were both in love so much,about 5 months ago she started acting weird...then everything went down hill and i said lets have a break and she said yeh...i said do u want to break up with me and she said yeh.I was heartbroken to hear this,she wrote me a letter that made no sense at all.Two weeks later i saw her with another guy all over her...now my reaction was that she cheeted on me and it all made sense to me now.We were spose to meet up later as friends for coffee ,and she just rubbed it in my face about the other guy,that was it, i never wanted to speak to her again,i had feelings for her but somehow i felt like i no longer new her.Now 5 months later she rang me up crying saying she wants to kill herself and is in love with me still and she thinks about me every day...she said she wanted to meet up with me.I agreed to meet up with her,at first i gave her no sympathy, after all she broke my heart.Then she put her arms around me and tyied to kiss me and stuff.I Guess im still abit inlove with this girl and even though she told me she has been seeing other guys but not at the moment,i just could't help myself falling for her again.I know what you are going to say Wuss...i know.Then we got it on and she invited me inside her house and we sleped together.I spent the whole night and next day with her as if we were together again as a couple.When it was time to say goodbye i said am i ever going to see you again,she said do you want to see me.I said i guess so,she said call me...i said no im not going to call you,your the one that has to call me and that was it. Now what i want to ask is, what do you make of this? She has been taking speed and ecstasy a few times and i think she is abit of a mess, she found out seeing these other guys didn't make her happy at all. I really don't know what her intentions are? Does she want me back or was it that she was that low and depressed and she just needed her self esteem boosted? I know everyone will think im mad but i really want to get back with this girl.Now she rang me up the other day and we went to the beach today...again it was like we were a couple again ,both of us couldn't get enough of each other.She has said some nasty things like ....i said isn't it nice here at the beach its, just like when we were on out holidays and she said( yeh whatever).Also when we went to the shops and i wanted to look at a watch ,she said (looking for a ring for your next girlfriend are you)...what is with this im so confused and have no idea what is going on here...i can't play it by ear...we have now spent 2 days together and even sleped with eachother...what does everyone reckon she wants...On the fone before the 2nd time we meet up again,i said i think i know what you want and she said (i don't want anything,i just want to have fun) well seams after today ,she might want me and we have organised spending next Saturday night together.What do u reckon she wants with me .... any ideas? D.S Sydney Australia