baddasslegend92

wow!!!thats ummm wow!!

Knowing that when its all said and done and they realize what they loss, when they try to come back you can tell them you not interested!!!!

Woman like the bad boy!!! End of story!!!!

wow@hol234 not sure what you should do.Since you know him better then we do it actually up to you to make the decision.My ex called me after two days.Mine ended just like yours did,LD and we was a plane ride away.I been home since thursday and she contacted me on Sun.The funny thing was I was not that happy to hear from her since she broke it off with me before I had to fly back.Me,as much as I love her I will keep the NC because this is what she wanted.

Everything you said is 100% correct.And most of the time the ex come running back after what ever they was chasing does not work for them,By that time you have the plesure of telling them you need time, or lets be friends.

Usually it is a lie.excuses like, its because of my job,or its just me,or school etc are usually excuses.A lot of the times it has to do with another person in the picture and they don't know how to tell you.Better to take the high road and move on.Its so hard but im getting really good at it.

Usually when they sa they need time etc??usually the end.I just went through the same thing this week with the girl I loved.It is so hard to hear those words.Better to have no contact!!!Trust me , I truly believe that if a person wants you they will come back in their right mind eventually.Its up to you to take them back.

That's the thing.I assumed we both felt the same about each other.She gave me the same love I gave her.and thank you i1dr..That really helps.I do love her enough to be happy w/o me.Its so hard to say goodbye, and I am so hurt.But I will be ok.I just wished it didn't hurt so bad.

Hello all.

I just had the worst week of my life.I will start from the beginning.I was doing the online dating and met this wonderful girl right before Christmas time.She lived in VA and I live in Atlanta.We hit it off really well from the first time we met each other there was nothing but sparks.On New Years I asked her to be my woman and she was so excited about that.You know how long distance is talk on the phone every day and night etc, everything was great.My now ex girlfriend got a new position which required her to go to NY for a week.That's when everything changed for us.When I finally made it to VA to see her I know from when I got there things was not the same.She didn't have the glow that she once had before when I come to see her.I was supposed to stay there until the weekend of Valentine's day but I left early because I was so hurt.When I was there with her she seemed so distant from me.So of course on Valentine's day I asked her could we talk and she agreed.She told me that I was such a great guy and the last thing she wants to do was hurt me,but she did not want to be in a relationship anymore because she needed to get herself together.I could not believe it.It felt like I was just hit by a bus.I begged her not to leave me and she said she would at least try.When I landed in Atlanta I called her and told her I made it and I would call her back when I was situated.I called her and she never answer my calls.I have accepted that she did not want me anymore ,but why?I loved her so much and treated her so well.I don't understand how woman tell you how they are tired of the * * * hole men and then they meet a nice guy like myself,and then turn around and break it off.I alway hear that I am such a sweet guy blah blah blah ,but then I get my heart broken all the time.What am I doing wrong???

I don't understand people.My girlfriend also broke up with me on Valentines day..Im a libra also.We just seem to put our all into things.

Just an update!!She broke up with me on Valentine's day...Why do love have to hurt so bad and suck!!!!

Thank you I really needed that.

So you don't think you guys could try again and make it work?I mean I am in the honeymoon stages with my new girl now.I am so scared that it will end up like you said yours ended.What would you suggest??and what have you learned?

I'd add one that I think is quite common, if relatively unspoken

 

(1) Disappointment.

 

I've lost count of the number of times I've read about breakups, and what it has amounted to is one person discovering that the other person is not who they thought they were or hoped they were (sometimes after the honeymoon stage, sometimes when they make a discovery about something such as cheating, sometimes simply as time goes on). This leads to them breaking it off and continuing the search for someone to match up to the image.

can someone please explain honeymoon stage to me?I was dating a girl before and she told me that the honeymoon stages are over.Guess that was a way of telling me her behavior is her true colors.So I broke it off.how can you keep the honeymoon stages going?

Maybe too many expectations are placed upon all of us to think that it's 'the way' to stay with only one person the remainder of our life?

 

People change and how can one expect that the other will change in sync and/or accept that change the other individual made/went through?

 

What if we question the norm/the expectation to stay with one person the remainder of our lives? What do we really want--'oatmeal' or variety?

 

When the going gets rough--do we really want to tough that out or start again--to feel that romantic rush (which always feels great)?

Kinda funny..relationships always feel great at the beginning, then as time pass something seems to happen.Either one person feel more in love when the other person feel the same or less etc.In every relationship I try to keep it spontanious, just seem the other person get's bored after awhile..that's unless im not trying hard.Relationships are so hard,there really no way of figuring it out.

Hello,

I just have a question. I have been in a longdistance with this wonderful woman for about two months now.We met on a dating site.I live in GA and she lives in VA. Our relationship is going great so far but I am so scared that things may change. We both do everything for eachother. How can i keep the relationship good and not to worry about the if's and what nots? Also in my past ld relationships sometime people change and then tell you this is not what they want. I don't want to go through that again especily with her. any sugessions???

sorry you going through all of this.Man it has to be hard.What you need to do is look at your situation.Now we are only here for advice, however you have to look at it like this,do you want to spend the rest of your life in this situation,or do you want to get out and look towards the future.Now I can tell you from experience that getting a divorce is painful.I have been divorced for4 years now and that was the best thing that I have ever did.I have since then met a wonderful woman that I believe I deserve.Just take it one day at a time and keep us updated.

If you trust him you should not have anything to worry about.And like you said it was not your place to delete the email,but to sit back and see what he was going to do.I have been married before and I still keep in touch with my ex wife from time to time to see how things are going.Nothing at all like we going to get back together or anything.Just try not to be insecure about the situation..And trust me,If he wanted to be with her he would and there's nothing you can do about it if that was the case.

Call her and leave her a msg...If she don't respond then she's not interested.

Well this is what happened!!!! I decided to put my profile back up...LOL we was on yahoo messenger when she happened to go on the site and see my profile back up...So of course she asked me why did I put my pic up when we agreed to take them down....I was like I told you a week ago and you took your sweet time,,,So I figured it was ok to put mines back up....So she paused for a while and said......WOW!!! now I know how you felt when I put her pix back up.Then she told me she logged on and took hers off..I told her that actions speak louder than words.... You can tell me all day you going to do something and if I don't see it with my own eyes then its not done!!!!So after all that I agreed to take my pic down as well.I am not one of these wussy guys who let woman run over me....Im quick to kick woman to the curb....But i will give her another chance and play it by ear...and also keep my options open...Thanks bethany!!

Thanks again to you guys too for the advice!!!!

Yeah im going to give it two more days!!!!!Im not going to even say anything about it...If i log on and see that she still logging on i will dump her for sure...Like i said I already told her how I felt and I am not second best.

Hi all

I met this girl on a online dating site about a month ago and decided to finally go and see her.We hit it off very nice and decided to be a couple before I went back home...The problem is that I we agreed to take down our profile...Before I met her we took our pix down so no one would send notes to us, but one day I checked and she had put her pix back up.When I told her about it she was like she was just bored and playing around with the computer and put up more pix..(yeah I know like im stupid right?)..3 days later she put up six more pic..So of course by now im pissed..Again she was bored...So I aksed her was I not enough for her and if she wanted to con't looking for men then I will step aside...Of course she said no...So now she took all her pix down except for one..I just want to know what should I do?Should i just say F****it and cut her off..or wait around and see if she going to take it down?I already told her how I felt about it and she agreed to take it down...So my question is how should I handle this?

lol!!!!5 is average...most female like the thicknes of it.