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Thank you everybody for your responses! I thought about what you told me and tried to understand what the guys said from their perspective. By now it is hard for me to imagine that what happened last week really happened ... Here is an update: Since I felt so bad about what I did (even though we "just" fooled around) and I DO care a lot about my boyfriend and I want to be honest I told him on Saturday what happened. He forgave me right away and is glad that not more happened. I feel better now since I told him and I love him even more since he was so understanding. I learned a lesson here and I am very happy and thankful that I can be with him. We talked things through and my confusion is gone. He means very much to me and we are getting along great - I was very stupid last week and regret it. We are goign to Boston from Friday through Sunday! I can't wait

Everybody tells me to break up - I wont do that! Once my head is clear I will think about it ... Thank you anyways. You all think I am a horrible person now.

Hi Iceman26, no I would not like it if he did it ... but if I tell him we will break up and I don't want that. How do I know he is not cheating anyways? I started cheating after I was cheated on the first time. I know I am not being honest with him and it drives me crazy ... but I can't tell him ...

Thank you for your answers. I could tell that guys were writing the replies ... ;-) Now you probably think I am one of those girls ... Anyways, my co-worker is moving so that probably solves the problem. I am my boyfriend's first girlfriend, so he is very "innocent" and has no idea. I did not sleep with the guy either ... just everything else. I still don't want to drop my boyfriend! Why does everybody say that? I like him too much and I don't want to lose him.

No I was never abused as a child and mu parents are happily married! I had a picture-perfect childhood ...

Hi, I cant believe those things still happen when you are in your fifties! I cant wait to get out of my 20ies and I hope I will settle down and never have to worry again ... crazy world. Anyways, I believe you are so attracted to your "friend" because he is a challenge for you. Your marriage has become boring over the years. This other guy represents an adventure and he makes you think about things you are not usually thinking about. He is mysteric and unreachable - it is like a goal for you to get him and the longer he lets you hang the more obsessed you will become with him. This is what I would do in your situation: Be strong and wait for HIM to contact you next time. Make sure you keep the whole thing as a FRIENDSHIP!! You dont want to loose your husband - he doesnt deserve that. Try to talk to your husband about your attraction. You have not cheated yet, you can be honest with your husband and try to find out what is missing. Honesty will help the most in this situation. If your husband is understanding you both can work on a solution to pep-up your marriage and maybe do more things together, challenge each other and maybe start a sport together. You seem to be the competitive kind, like me, and I found doing sports togerther hepls a big deal. Please dont get together with your "friend" and be strong! Let him get back to you and cool the relationship down. Maybe even tell him what you feel and break up the contact for a while. That's what I would do - Good luck to you! Keep us posted!

I have a problem. I have been dating this sweet guy for about 7 months now and he treats me great. He loves me and I thought that I was so happy with him. A few days ago I went out with my co-worker Reid who I have been kind of flirty with since I started working here. We ended up going to his appartment after we had a few drinks and ... you know what's next. We are both very atttracted to each other and I like him a lot. The big issue is that he getting married in 6 months and I have a boyfriend. He also moves away in 2 weeks to live with his wife-to-be. I dont know what is wrong with me - my boyfriend loves me and I am so happy with him - still I cheat! I feel bad on the one side and on the other side I would probably do it again in a heartbeat since there is so much energy between me and Reid all the time. We both agreed NOT to tell our partners and he said he feels bad. I am not sure what to do? Should I tell my boyfriend? How can I stop to flirt with Reid? How can I get over my insecurities and not cheat? Thank you for your advice!