I have lived with my boyfriend for 8 years. He enjoys looking at the personals in yahoo, and porn sites.
He has been in contact with old girlfriends on the computer and the phone.
He has gone to one of there houses to fix their computer, who knows what else he fixed.
I know all this but he doesn't know that I know.
I have an engagement ring and the wedding rings, but he has never said when he wants to marry. In fact I have asked and he just says I don't know.
On our 7th anniversary of being together, i said why don't we get married on this date, of course he said no not now.
He is keeping it a secret about the computer stuff and that he talks to these old girlfriends on the phone.
I have no proof that he has done anything physical, I have told myself that as long as it's on the computer that I can deal with that, but the phone bothers me. Naturally he's calling them from his work.
He does go to people's home to fix there computers, and he will let me know when he does. But i went out with friends from work to eat dinner and he was not home when i got there, all he said was he was at so and so's house fixing there computer. But he had questioned me that week as to when I was going out to eat.
The next day i seen on the computer - her email - thanking him for fixing her computer - that told me that he had gone to her house the night I was out to eat.
So of course my imagination has drove me nutts. Did he touch her, did he have sex with her, he's been talking to her on the phone - how else would he have made arrangements to go fix her computer.
I just don't know what to think or do - I haven't said anything to him - because he doesn't know that I have a spy program on our computer.
So if i say anything - he will know - and I don't want him to stop typing because then I won't know what he is up to.
So am I just to keep going nutts - or just wait and be patient to see if he says anything has happened physically. Then if that's the case and he has had sex, then i confront him and then leave.
HELP
