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"Muneca" I think your right. I've been thinking a lot about life and such, I'm going to have to change my situation. I can't change my time off, I could get rid of some stuff, make the money position change. I was also thinking that maybe a relationship isn't ment for me. That sounds fairly pesimistic I know. I don't really prescribe to religion, so I don't believe in the whole fate thing. It might be a true challange of life to go it alone! I know that one of life's greatest lessons is learning to depend on yourself. Thanks for the good advice folks.

Here is an easy tip. If your going to punch someone, left or right doesn't matter. You always need to square your wrist with your forarm. As your punching you need to raise your elbow up. If your punch glances off or misses, push your body wieght forward and put your elbow into them hard (aim for the side of the head, or side of the neck). And.................the nuts are off limits. I went to HS in South Phoenix, and even those punks for the 19th OVs and the Bloods didn't fight like that (they always had knives, pipes, bats, ect.....)

"Hereitis" Well, I usally play the casual card. If things are going well, and she seems like an interesting lady and fliters back with me, then I'll casually ask if she would like to get together sometime and do something fun (movie, concert, ect...). If when I get the NO I just tend to play it off and say something like "cool, maybe some other time" or what ever. It doesn't piss me off or make me sad, I just assume it wasn't ment to be. I also don't think I shoot for women out of my league either. I don't normally look for the 10s. I actually like less than perfect women (Curves, dark hair, dark eyes). I don't flip over the "10s" personality is really what promts me to make the move. When I meet a confident or out spoken lady, it really gets my interest. I'd agree that I need to pick up some new hobbies, but I'm not really sure what I can do since I travel. Sadly I only get to travel in the states, its not really that exciting talking about trips to Jacksonville FL or Houston TX. I'm gonna have to work on that. College would be a great place to make some friends and meet some ladies, but its not possible with out giving up my income/job. I've got two car payments, and a house payment. I can't afford to do it. Not that I wouldn't like the chance to go back to school, but I've made too many commitments. "CK" Its nice to know that other guys know what its like. I have a lot of interest, but it seems none of them are really that interesting to women. What kind of hobbies would put me around women, or be interesting to them? The only qualm I have is that I'm not going to superfically enjoy a hobby just to meet women. I know that sounds stupid, but I'm all about honesty. Keep in mind also that I'm home typically one day a week, so any new hobbies/interests would need to be on a once a week basis.

Usally it breaks down when I go for the move. Typically when I ask a girl out, I usally get turned down. I never throw myself on women, and only after getting to know them some what do I ever ask them out on a date. The only luck I've had going out with girls is when its to meet a group of people. You bring up a good point though "hereitis", a girls looks really arn't what promt me to ask them out. I really want a girl that I can talk with, that I can do things with. Someone to love, but someone who is a companion also. Your last two questions are tough, I honestly don't know what I would bring to a relationship. I'd like to bring affection, love, fun, and a little bit of excitement (I don't really even know if thats what a relationship is about). The only things that I would like a women to bring to a relationship would be affection (hugs and kisses!) and a desire to be with me. "Mr. Cactus" Good advice also. Its nice to hear from someone that can relate. I really try to not think about relationships and such during the day, but at the end of the night, it pretty hard.

During HS I used to cutt from time to time. My best friend saw it and started questioning me, it was really awkard (especially for guys). My friend questioned me about what the cuts were, and I tried to explain how it made me feel better. He didn't understand very well, things changed and we lost touch soon after HS. I later came to realize something that has made mylife much better. What other people think of you doesn't matter AT ALL. For me, I stopped thinking about what other people thought about me, and just worked on helping myself. If you try and explain cuts and they don't understand, its their fault for listening better. Help yourself first, you have the power to end the cutting when you want to (like I did). Good luck to you (wish me luck with the ladies)

Good points. I would agree that my attitude has gone down hill in the last 6-8 months. I take good care of myself, I have to speak infort of large groups of people, and don't really have a problems just making small talk (even with good looking girls). This will sound kind of messed up, but I've always believed that I've got to take care of myself first. I've been 100% on my own since I was 17, and I always looked out for myself. I'm sick and tired of being a "good listener" every time I've tried to be that guy with a ladie, I always end up in the friend zone. You said that I can't be all about being lonely, and I totally agree. I hide my sadness to everyone, that I'm around. I love to crack jokes and get people to laugh. I do have a lot of hobbies and interest though (most of them have gone to the wayside since I started travelling). I've been into fast cars for sometime. I love working on my Camaro, I used to go to car meets and races often. I used to belong to a Sportbike club and go to meets all the time. I'm a huge movie buff, I'm also a deep music lover (I'm the kind of person that likes to sit down and just listen to music). Hmmm..................Dance class. I never really thought about that. I'm not that great of a dancer, not a bad idea at all. Not bad advice at all. Keep'em coming

It seems as though it would be that easy, but sales is more of a show or game to me. I don't have any desire to meet a girl that likes me for anything but my true self. I'm also not willing to change/sacrifice who I am just to get a higher ranking with the ladies. I am the only person that I know how to be, and that should be enough for anyone. Not to keep running on, and on, but................I think pretty highly of myself. I drive a hot car, I've got a Sport motorcycle, I like dressing well (I look badaas in a suit with a pair of Oakley C-wires). I forced myself to be a positive out going guy with no luck in the dating department. I know that I'm not a loser, but paitently waiting is starting to get to me.

Well..................I'll keep this as short as I can. Being alone is driving me crazy. Here is my situation. I'm 23 years old, I've never had a relationship with, or even kissed a women. Now before you say what kind of anti-social person could this be, let me tell you about myself. I'm a self made man. I started in sales when I was 16 years old. I was very shy in highschool until my senior year. When I got out of HS, I didn't really have the choice of going to college. I didn't let that hold me back. I've made a great carreer out of sales, now I'm the National Sales Trainer for an Electronic Payment Processing company. I've been a sales trainer for 2 1/2 years now, and have enjoyed making a descent salery. I've focused extreamly hard on work, and now I feel like its ruined my life. When I was younger, I used to work 50-60 hours a week to make the money I wanted, now I'm older and have become wrapped up in corp. america. I visit two cities a week for work, I'm home for one day a week. I used to be a fairly social person. I've never had good luck with ladies, I was born with a droopy eye lid (Ptosis). In HS it was a source of huge inscurities, I've since had it cosmeticly improved, but its still not perfect. I always figured that my face/eyes were so unattractive that was the reason I got turned down (the few times I tried to get a date). After HS I figured that if I met a woman she would express some interest in me and get past the visual turn off. I travel all the time now for work, and my social life is falling apart. I end up sitting in a hotel room ever night, sleepless every night thinking about how lonely I am. I've lost contact with most of my friends now, because I'm just not around much. I find myself almost obbsessed with depression and being alone. I really like being a trainer, and the job market for that field has always been slim. I'm thankful to have a good paying job, but I find myself thinking about quiting it just so I can be around more of my friends and mabye one day break my curse of lovelessness. Guys and Gals, I'd really like some advice. I don't want to give up the money (its very good), but I'm so miserable its not even funny. I not a terribly ugly guy (I look good with a pair of sunglasses) and I really long to have a meaningful relationship with a women. It makes me really sad and depressed to see my friends find happieness (some have married, a few even have had kids). I know that sounds bad and all, but I'm actually to the point now that I don't really even want to be around my friends that are couples, it just makes me hurt inside. Thoughts are welcome folks BTW (I'm 6'4", with short brown hair, brown eyes, I'm fairly fit and weigh 195lbs. I think I'm good looking minus the droopy eyelid)