Thanks for the replies everyone. I think all of you have extremely valid points to make--and wonderful advice.
I have an update: She Instant Messaged me again lastnight. She asked about work, my family, my niece... and we talked about her dog, whom I love very much. Her dog is the only dog I've ever loved--I've never had my own. She told me he was sad and missed me. She said, "he's become an attention w*ore." I told her, "yeah, I've spoiled him, huh? I can't help it, I just love him so much." She said, "I know, and that hurts." But she told me the maybe I should come and see him sometime. So, there ya have it... the link--is the dog. Before we got offline, I told her I missed her, and she said she missed me too, but that was it. She's out of town for a couple of days, and won't be back until Friday.
In the past, we've normally gone to pick out pumpkins together at a nearby pumpkin patch. I wish so much I could ask her to go, but I know that I have to wait for her to come to me. We were supposed to go to a Halloween party that's coming up--I'm sad I'm probably not going.
I'm graduating with two degrees this December. I remember about 2 months ago she told me that as a graduation present, she wanted to help put down money for us to go on a trip--to Jamaica or somewhere tropical. We even looked online for good deals and everything. I think this is sad. But I know that there's nothing I can do but hope for the best, and hope that she comes around.
I want reply back to one of the postings--one of you said that there are 3 reasons why people break up with someone else. Well, number 2 sounds just about right in my situation. She's not happy with her job, at all. She works for the State, and is grant funded. She doesn't know if they'll renew her grant or not, and on top of that, legislature is talking about reorganizing the state gov. offices again--or something like that.
Anyway, thanks again.