Hello
I am new to this forum, but not to the hurt that most everyone is experiencing here. Well here goes.
My wife, who is 37, and I who am 41, have been married for 8 years and have two children. A boy who is 6 and a girl who is 3. Just this past August I caught my wife having an affair on me with a co-worker of hers. The day after I found out she set up separate counselors to get to the bottom of why she did it. As it turns out I was labeled with co-dependency. It is a common problem with adults who are raised with an alcoholic parent which I was. I realize I may have put my wife through quite a bit. I did everything in my life for the sake of my wife, children and our house. I built and invisible fence around my house so that no one could change the happiness I thought we had. It didn't want to expose anyone or anything in my life to the elements outside of our family for fear I would jeopardize it. Well look what happened. Anyway, after a few weeks of counseling we agreed to try and make things work. I would work on my co-dependent problem and she would stop seeing the op. Well that worked for about a week and I caught her back with him. Now things are even more complicated. My son, who has been diagnosed with an anxiety problem, is starting to favor staying with mom over me. My wife lives at her moms where there are kids to play with constantly from my wifes sisters marriage. I live alone in our home so I guess I don't have the environment to offer that she does. My sons anxiety which had subsided over the past year has reappeared in a state far worse than before. He keeps telling his mother as well as myself that he wishes we would try and get back together so it is quite obvious whtat his problem is. But it does not seem to phase my wife in the least. I am expecting separation papers anyday now because she says she wants to get out of her moms and into an apartment. She cannot afford an apartment w/o support. I work 3 days on and 3 days off so we were spliting the kids 50/50. My daughter still stays with me on my days of, but my son's days here are few and far between. Right now she comes and goes as she pleases seemingly w/o a care in the world. Should I wait, forget, give up or what to do?