timeoutchick

Update - Ironically this weekend Guy #2 (the boyfriend) confronted me... he discovered an email I had written to guy #1 in my palm pilot. I never actually sent the email to guy #1 -- sometimes I just write to clear my mind, get my thoughts out, etc. I never intended that email to be sent to anyone or read by anyone and did not have any idea that it when I sync'd my palm pilot, that email got on there. Nonetheless, it said basically the things that I wrote here in my first post. Of course I was horrified when I knew he read that. He had been acting very short with me for about 3-4 days and I wondered what was up. The end result though I think was probably more positive than negative. He was hurt, yes. I came clean with him and told him what was going on, and nothing has happened between me and the other guy aside from a few conversations and some flirting. He told me that he knows that he doesn't give me the things that I want or need. (because I've told him over and over and over - basically just more intimacy and things like he has told me he loves me maybe 3 times in the 4 years we've dated....) Anyway, long story short, it prompted a very much needed conversation between us, and I came out of it feeling that I truly love this guy and do not want to screw up my relationship with him. So my plan is to avoid guy #1 at all costs, and do what I can to remove him from my mind, heart, or whatever. I know a relationship with him would never work. He could never be faithful to anyone, and it's true what Porcupine said, I think some of the attraction is simply the fact that we've always snuck around and in some way that was exciting. I appreciate all of your comments, hopefully I am back above ground on this and my current relationship will become stronger.

Why is it acceptable for women to be turned on by pictures or videos of other women but not acceptable for a guy to be turned on by a picture of a penis? Truth be told, there are probably more guys out there that feel the same way but would never be brave enough to admit it!

How to explain.... A few years ago I had a fling with a guy. He had a girlfriend, I was single. It lasted 2 1/2 years and ended with me losing it one day and calling his girlfriend one Monday morning and telling her. At this time I had a very good male friend who knew the guy I was having the fling with and he was my shoulder to cry on throughout the whole situation. As you can imagine, the guy was furious with me, and we did not speak for almost 3 years --- during which time I started dating the other guy - who was once my friend. (are we confused yet). Herein lies the problem... guy number one is someone that I can't shake. We are currently speaking again, except now the shoe is on the other foot. I'm the one dating someone. We haven't really done anything as we both keep saying we can't go there. But we have such a connection it scares me. He walked up to me one day at lunch time and the girl I was with was like, "Oh my god you two have incredible chemistry, it's so obvious." She didn't even know who he was or that he and I were ever involved. I know where this is all leading, and I know it would completely devastate my boyfriend. I make myself avoid running into this guy, but sometimes I give in because I do miss him. To make it worse, he and my boyfriend run in the same circle of friends so there will never be a time when I can completely avoid him. It was so much easier when I thought he hated me..... help!