Hallie

I too was a bed-wetter when I was young and was sent for numerous tests to make sure there was no medical reason for it. I saw many doctors about it and they all told my mom the same thing. Cut off any liquids a few hours before bedtime. Make sure the child pees before bed. An hour to an hour and a half into his sleep wake him up and put him on the toilet and try to get him to pee again. The reason for this is the first deep sleep of the night is the deepest and is usually during this sleep that an accident will happen. Bed-wetters are deep sleepers and although they can wet the bed during any deep sleep hopefully by waking him up his bladder will be emptied. Another thing to do is make sure he goes to the bathroom at regular times throughout the day. Our bodies work like clocks at eventually he will always have to go at these times and not at other times. Also make sure that he completely empties his bladder, it is important for him to try to push any last drops out. Definitely get a plastic mattress cover for him; in the meantime you can use a large garbage bag over the area where he will do any damage. There is also the option of getting a bed alarm that will go off as soon as moisture hits the pad. It will wake him up and hopefully teach him to recognize when he has to go. He will grow out of it, just support him and love him and make sure he doesn't feel embarrassed. I'm still a deep sleeper to this day and won't wake up to use the bathroom; my body just learned how to hold it all night.

Hi Toni, I need some advice, my stories a little long. My ex and I had been together for 5 years when he broke it off a week and a half ago stating that he doesn't know what love is, that he doesn't know if he has feelings and needs space and doesn't want the stress of a relationship. We had only had a handful of fights in our 5 years together, we were best friends and there was a lot of love between us. A month ago now he told me almost the same thing and broke things off, he needed space because he wasn't sure how he felt. A few days later he called me and wanted to see me. He told me he had made a mistake and that he loved me and wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. He said he wanted to marry me but didn't want to get engaged just yet because he didn't have a ring. I forgave him and I thought everything was good, he had just made me the happiest girl in the world but now he's pushed me away again. I know he loves me, I can see it in his eyes and I've tried telling him to trust his feelings but he won't. After we broke up he was calling me every day because he was worried about me. I told him to stop because he wasn't taking any time to think for himself because he was constantly worried about me. I finally saw him a few days ago when I went to pick up some of my things; he couldn't look into my eyes; he said it hurt too much. He says he wants to be friends and doesn't want to lose me from his life but I can't be just friends. When I saw him he put his arm around me to comfort me and he grabbed my hand and held it. I feel like some of his problems are from his parents. His parents split by the time he was 12 but they didn't have a good relationship for years before that. His dad wasn't the greatest dad; his mom states that she was both the mom and the dad. After his parents split his mom had one bad relationship after another throughout his teen years, a few of them were abusive ones. It seemed a lot of these men moved into their home, thereforeeee exposing him to his mother's relationships. He and his mother also don't get along the greatest. They have major fights over stupid things and it upsets him very much. The thing is he still lives with her, he's been stuck taking care of her for the past number of years (he's 27 now). They co-own their house but it wasn't his choice. His father borrowed a lot of money off of him when he was still a young teen and couldn't afford to pay it back so he signed over his half of the house since he was still part owner. His mother can't afford to buy him out or even to pay the mortgage so he's been paying it off. I've been patiently waiting for them to sell it so we can get our own house but she is so dependant on him, she talks like she will be living there for years to come. I've tried suggesting to him that he needs to sell the house. He says he wants his freedom but I don't see how he's going to get that by pushing me away since I'm not the one who's crowding him. I told him his mother can't expect him to live there forever; she should have been planning for this years ago. I've also suggested that maybe he should talk to someone to help sort out his feelings but he doesn't seem too interested. Do you think that he has commitment issues because of his family situation growing up? What can I do to help him? To help him realize his true feelings for me? A couple people have suggested to me that I just forget about him and move on but I love him so much. I know things could work between us; this is just killing me inside.