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Ok, so we spent 4 days with out seeing each other. But he still calls. He tells me its not that he don't want to be with me but he doesn't have a job right now and he doesn't have a place. Which he says he plans on moving out soon. I am getting things ready for college I am to busy to study him. Boy that felt good to say. Needless to say I have done a little bit of self discovery and I have realized I was a wonderful before he destoryed me. he gets so angry with me when I am like ok if you want to leave me alone please do. He gets so mad and thats when he says he loves me he wants me to marry him. But I think hello do I want to wonder my whole life or do I want to find some one new and not worry about that. But I have always felt for me doing such bad things I am going to get pay back. So I always felt I would take it from him why not just stay with him. Not now the next time he says stop I am going to and not look back. I keep myself busy to get him off my mind. So I guess I am doing alright. Thanks for the advice. I think I will make it. with hope..

He told me to give him two weeks. He will see how things are. He tells me not to wait but in a rude way so in other words if I am not going to be there in two weeks then he will stay with her. What do I do?

Dear Jem, I am going to tell you when a girl wants to go with the girls on a girl night then she might be worrying that the relationship is getting to serious so she goes to have alittle fun. It makes her still feel free to some extent. But then she has the secuity of you being there. You need to start doing something like maybe hanging out with other couples or you just start something new like get a buddy and you two go to the gym together. But your girlfriend should not be going out every friday night. Just tell her you need a little but more of a relationship. Do something spontanous like make reservations on friday night put flowers in the house with a note where to meet you. stuff like that can really make a girl think fun or love. Because always remember fun can only last so long but it can get old. Love is stuck right where it counts.Hope things work out.

Yesterday was the worst day of my life. Someone from sent her an anymonous letter telling her everything. So she knows. He denied it and she doesn't believe him but told him is never to be around me again. So he tells me to do that he can't play games anymore. Then he calls me later and says its not over yet just let all of this blow over. I have done nothing but cry all day. and all yesterday. I know this chapter is closed now if anyone wants to give words of wisdom how to move on and what to do I need it.

I am not a mean person or bad one. I just got caught in a situation that is to much for my age. I have not talked to him in one day now. I think things are over. I know that it would hurt my family and everything. And I always think the most about how bad it is when I look at his daughter and she hugs me and tells me she loves me. Because I sit there and think could be the one that will pull her apart from her dad? And that is a yes. I am sorry that one of you were just so angry with me, but if you would have asked me would I have did this a month before it happened you would have got a no! You never no till you are put in those situations that you can judge them really. I was just wondering if I still had hope. I will see how things go today. Thanks for replying the first one is actually what my best friend says she hates him. She told me to stop it when it started. So thanks again I hope to get more advice. Thanks

Ok, I am 17 years old I have been having an affair with my cousins husban for about 5 going on six months. He is older than me. She and he have been together 8 years married 4. They have a two year old daughter who thinks the world of me and I love her very much. This past aug of 2002 him and I went down south for a week. His wife could not take off but we took his daughter. We had a great time in paradise. I was in a relationship that had been going on for 8 months. But was on a down fall. So then we had a great week together. And then after that we started hanging out together and I lived with them. So he was always in my room and we were always together. Two months pasted and i knew I was falling in love with him. So I tired moving out. Needless to say he found me that day and cried and told me he loved me he has known it for long time but just wanted to not show it. So I stayed with him and continue the relationship. 3 Months we get caught at places where we should not be. When he was gone so was I. People began to get suspious. So he slacked up no more hanging out. Then he would start hanging out with his wife to get the family from harrasing him. He says he doesn't want to be with her. That he is in it for his daughter because she always threatens him if he leaves her then he will never see the little girl. Now he wants me to wait till I am 18 thats when he will leave her. He says if i don't go with him he will try to hold out with it as long as he can but he is not happy and well leave when things are stabled. So here i am today I spoke with him and I don't see any change. I told him he had to stop all things with her and he has to choose. He tells me he can't give me what I want right now but if i will just try to make do with what we have. I have moved out. I see him maybe a total of 3 hours a day. he calls all the time. I cannot stand my cousin we have never got along but it was a family house so she could not say i couldn't live there before. But he was just hurting me so bad with spending all that time with her. If he plans on leaving her then why does he keep peace with her. He said because he hates arguing. I told him yesterday that this was to hard i couldn't anymore and he wants me to tuff things out. What do I do? I want to be with him he has everything i want in a guy looks,love,and great sense of humor. I have went from a happy go lucky person to a depressed and crys when he doesn't call me or when I think of what he is doing with her. He says they don't have any sexual incounter but how do i know? What do I do?? Do i stick to what I told him today and its over or do I try hard to make this work. Please I need help.