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can anybody give me some advices how can I move on? Please.....

lil_mamarains13, I don't think working overseas is the reason she want to leave. The reason is she wants to find someone that match her type. Maybe I am not her type anymore and she needs someone can gives her future. Now she already with someone that willing to spend 6 years to wait her. Maybe he is the right guy and can treat her better than I. I just don't understand why she want to call me again and told me how good I am if she doesn't love me. I just don't understand why she can straight away made the decision within few weeks (since she told me the guy just her good friend, she pushed away the guy's hand when he trying to hold her hand......). I am really hurt to fall second times.

My ex (6 years+) and I broke since May when I was doing a project in overseas. The reason of our break up is because she fall in love with someone (Her friend). I did contact her during i was in overseas but she seems like reluctant to reply. Till one day, she replied my email and asked me to leave her alone and let her go. Starting that day, I did NC. One day on July, she wrote me an email and she told me she really miss me after totally lost me. She sent me some notes, wrote down all the histories where we start from. Very sweet and touching. I thought we can get back together this time. Early August, I went back to my country and we met up. She told me how good I am and how much she misses me when I am not around. She told me she already don't miss the guy anymore (because she knows they are not the same kind at all). Unfortunately, she said a friend of her (old friend from home town who waited her for 6 years although I was togehter with her) trying to go after her when he knew we broke up. She said she never expected the guy still waiting her for so long and she feel so touching. Anywehre, we hugged and kiss on that night and before I leave, she said it is hard for her to choice again (6 years ago and now) between both of us. I left my country again after two days and I keep contacting her when I was in overseas but still the same she was not answering my email and message. So i gave her some time and let her calm down (I knew she was confusing herself between the guy and me). I came back few days ago after the project. I called her and she want to meet me up. When I went to fetch her, I saw the necklace that I gave her is not on her neck, from that moment, i know she already made a decision. Within my expectation, she told me she is now together with the guy. She said she cannot see our future but she know the guy can give her the future. She touched by the guy because of six years waiting of her. She wants me to forget her and move on. Why she want to hurt me again??? Why she activate my heart again while I intented to move on? Why now she tells me about this. How can she just made the decision within few weeks. Why she wants to hurt me twice? I am totally fall again although I saw the light few weeks ago. I am really hurt. I really do not know what I can do now.

Hi muneca, I do not know what she is thinking....I afraid she just miss me but doesn't want to get back together. Now what I can do is just keep going with NC. I am not close to her, coz now I am in Taiwan. She asked me to call her when get back to my country in August. But I really do not know whether should I call her or not. She just called me yesterday. She just say hi to me and asking me how the life in Taiwan. I must make sure she really love me and want me to get back to her. I afraid I will fall again if not know it for sure.

Hi K8tie Kool Everything is being confused. I didn't expect she will give me a reply, but yesterday she sent me an email to thank me on the gift. She told me she really touching with the gift that I sent her and she like it very much. Besides, she also said she starting miss me again after she came back from travel with her old friends few days ago. She told me she recalls all the pleasures moment that we were together. She said she realises she miss me when she knows she is completely losing me (coz I didn't call her for a month). In the reply, she also attached few pages of note that describe how we started our relationship from the first day we met till we hold our hand together and started our lovely relationship......she really really remembers everything although some of it I can't really recall. Why she wrote this to me? I don't really understand...why??? I am moving on..... I didn't reply her. I want to tell her I miss her too, but what going to happen then? I do not know what to do and I afraid I will fall again...... Can I have some advices?

Actually I don't expect to receive any reply from her when I send her the birthday gift. I do this is because of generous and caring as what you said. I believe I won't able to get her back if she has lost her feeling to me. I just cannot believe what I had done for her in the last 6 years is not what she wants. She told me her feeling to me start faded 2 years ago, but I don't really understand why she kept relay the relationship and leave me alone after two years. I was spending my love to her but she was pulling out slowly. Don't you think it is very selfish? I am deeply hurt, and I don't want to hurt again. I am now trying to keep away what she gave to me and trying to not thinking of her as fast as possible.

Thanks for the advise. I understand her call is just because of guilty leaving me here. Besides, she called me maybe is because she just wanna to pass the key back to my sister (coz she doesn't have courage to face my family, i guess). I do not know whether i suppose to call her or not when I go back to my country on early of August. Her birthday is coming soon, I intent to send her a birthday gift. Do you think I am doing the right thing?

She called me few days ago for a little thing. She said hi to me and asked me how am I doing in Taiwan. She wants me to inform her when i going back to my country. why she still want to call me since she already said she has no feeling with me, plead me to leave her alone and let her go? Why she still want to talk when I decided to forget our 6+ years relationship and move on? Can anybody tell me why? please.....

When someone really has no feeling with you. How do you expect he/she will come back to you. NC workable or not is depend on why he/she wants to break up with you. If he/she fall in love with someone else, and lost the spark with you. Do you think he/she can pull out from the "someone" and get back to you? They never understand the dumpee's feeling because they only know what can make them feel happy. If this is your case, please let go and you keep move on. Breaking up is just temporary not used to it. Time will heal. NC is workable if there are no third party involves. Just my personal opinion.

Hi all, I just received a reply mail from my ex ( I sent her a mail few weeks ago)and she asked me to leave her alone and let her go. She said she is sick to feel guilty toward to me. Maybe she really had done something wrong to me when we were together. What can I do? I think the only thing I can do now is giving up of this relationship and start my life again. 6 years relationship is not a short period. But what can I do if she really doesn't want to get back together, right!

We were together for 6 years. We broke up 2 months ago. Everything has changed when she had a trip with her colleagues (male and female) in last year October. Her attitude has changed. She seems like cold to me. I admit I did control her so tight for the last few years, but I am improving myself when I know what I did on her was not right. I love her that's why I willing to change myself to fit her. One day she told me she accidentally has good feeling with her male colleague during the last trip in October. She told me she cannot control herself thinking of this man. She said this man has same interest with her and can make her happy, but she will not get together with him because he is not her type. She says she lost feelings for me. She'll always love me she says, but she isn't IN love with me anymore. Feeling is faded. She also told me that it is not fair being together with me but her mind keep thinking to other. She requested to break up. I love her so much; I was trying so hard to beg her not to leave me, and she agreed but giving her a bit times to consider. In April, I have to leave my country for 6 months for a project. And at the same time, she also left the country to China for her project as well. I thought this is a very good time for us to cool down and get back her feeling on me. But everything seems like not as what I expected. I did call her once per week (she stayed in China for five weeks), and I did send her emails to encourage her since she told me she is stress on her project. Day after day, I did not receive any call from her and even no email replied from her (this is unusual) at all. On May 7th, I called her again to find out what happening to her (I really care about her). Again she told me she cannot stop thinking of the guy, that's why she didn't know how to reply my emails. She requested to break up again. In June, I went back to my country and I have the chance (I contact her) to meet her for dinner. We act like usual, sharing food, sharing drink and so on. She asked me whether I still angry with her on the previous matter. I told her I am not but I need to know whether we still have chance to get back together. She shakes her head, and told me she fall in love with her colleague, but they are not together because she knows she can overcome and stop thinking of him. What did she mean? I am really confused. I was trying to convince her with all our happiness in the last 6 years. She was crying and again she required some more time from me to solve the problem. I am very confusing; I do not know what she means on giving her a little bit more time. I am back to my project again. Till today, I haven't received any call (she used to call me every night when we were still together) or email reply from her although I did call and send her email. I just can't understand why she's changing so fast. How can she just forget all the happiness we have in the past 6 years. It is so easy for her, but so hard for me. What should I do? Wait till she stops thinking of her colleague? Do we still have chance to get back together? Please advise!