RAUL

Check it out homie...I feel your pain bout being alone. It sucks! I just separated from a girl that I was prepared to spend the rest of my life with. What you should do is stop trying to control your boys relationship. If he is the same age as you it is likely that he doesn't know exactly what he wants. Once this girl loses her shine and he becomes bored...he'll be over it. He's got to make mistakes and learn for himself. Anything you say right now is going in one ear and out the other. If this guy is your best friend you should understand that and be there no matter what happens. Believe me, I know...sometimes your friends are all you got. It would be silly to let a Bi#*@ ruin that. Continue to be his friend but don't try to run his life, tell him how you feel and if he respects you he'll take your advice. Now as far as yourself, Ask yourself what you want to accomplish, is it just getting high with your buddy or do you have aspirations? Get out for a change, go make new friends...I am sure you can find someone to kick it with...maybe even a chick of your own that likes to burn one every once and a while...Find a focus, keep your eyes on it and if anything comes inbetween you and your focus...F_#* em'. You got one life man...don't waste time stressing over other peoples drama, handle YOUR business and you won't ever have any regrets. Holla back if you want to chat... -BOOGIE

Yes, this is all helping allot. I feel comfort knowing that there are people all over the world going through or have gone through these feelings. The part I can't seem to block out is the thought of her pain, I cannot stand that becuase of some of my mistakes she was forced to pull back. I I rationalize that becuase of her childhood (drug addict father/mom that was not there) that all she knows how to do is run when things don't go her way. She does not like to be hurt...its all shes ever known. As stated in the earlier post, I was the first person she ever let her walls down for and I can't help but feel guilty that I essentially did what everyone else in her life has done to her...HURT HER. Is my mind clouded in the aftermath of the breakup or is this a valid point?

When I woke up this morning the last thing I thought I'd be doing is posting my problem on a message board. I found this site in my deperate search for an answer...can you believe that I actually typed in 'cure for a broken heart' in google...anyways I have been reading a few posts and I feel comfortable sharing so here goes... I am going to state the facts and I want you to tell me your opinions or advice. We started the realtionship 1 1/2 years ago, things went well, we had a great time together and she was everything I ever wanted. I am 25, she is 19. She had a very traumatic childhood, father was drug addict and mother was never there up until recently. When I was courting her she said she fell in love with me, and I with her. I was the first person in her life that had shown her the type care and love and it seemed promising. About 3 months before the relationship eneded we would constantly fight, it was always realted to the fact that things were not going her way. The constant fighting led to the break up but now I look back at it and can't help but to think that it is 100% my fault, I sit here agonzing over all the times I could of done this...and all the times I shouldn't of done that...Is this normal? I am 25 but have only experienced 2 relationships (serious & otherwise) Do all break ups feel like this? How can I cope with the yearning sensation to call her, for the past week I have sat at work staring into space think about every part of the relationship trying to figure out what happened and how to get her back. PLEASE HELP, I feel alone!