Tide

ok, kid, you're SIXTEEN. so breathe. sit down. relax. you'll have plenty of time to figure all that intimate stuff out. for now, be the one that doesn't make the move. cuz eventually, she'll SHOW you what she wants and how fast she wants to go. y'know why that works? because girls like a challenge. then you're moving at her pace, she's not uncomfy, and you can let the chips fall where they may. but just chill. if she never makes a move on you, i PROMISE there will be girls that will. and all of them would rather get freaky with a guy with no experience than a man-whore. it's more challenging...

i'll make this quick because i don't want to create any bias my way or hers about the situation. i just need some honest answers. me and my baby met a year and a half ago. she was engaged, i had been with my ex for 3 years. we both left our significant others and hooked up. for a while we talked marriage, but i told her i wasn't sure, and that i'd change my mind about once a week, so i basically warned her not to trust in any quixotic ideas i put in her head. (i do alot of dreaming.) the deal is this: i have no idea what i will do with my life. i'm 21, she's 23. she has the house, the steady job, everything. the only reason i've had the same job for as long as i have is because i signed a contract (go navy!). i make some plans, but everything in my life is so dynamic, my dreams and plans change constantly. for over a year we stuck it out cuz we're honest with eachother. we have a house and a dog and a lot of really phenomenal sex. but yesterday my brother got married, and i freaked - it was a huge surprise. i'm thinking "he's only 24!!" and she's thinking "he waited till 24!?" this morning my girlfriend tells me she can't take me flip-flopping about marriage anymore, and she won't be able to wait for me to make a decision about marrying her. for some reason she's in a big hurry to do the whole family thing, and i'm not. well there's goes my attempt at sounding unbiased...anyway, i never tried to hurt this girl. i told her i get imaginative and create these totally possible perfect lives for us, but that the ideas change from time to time. now it's over? everything was perfect...or so i thought. the question is this: i'm going out to sea for six months in a week - is she ditching me to have her freedom while i'm gone? if i stay with her, will she still push the marriage issue? if i marry her, do you think things will saty wonderful between us? what's the best way to keep this going? or the best way to end it? and which should i do? well there goes my attempt at being quick...