neklof

Well first of all She's the one who called me and invited me to a dinner after not responding to a msg I left one month ago. See, I took the hint there and never planned to call her. And if she's been so gracious as too give me these hints then why did after this dinner and I asked if she'd like to go out sometime did she say yes? Then I call once more to confirm the date to only get no reply. Then I call one more and get no answer. See I would have taken the hint there also, I didnt plan on calling again BUT if again she's so gracious as to give me these subtle hints as to not hurt my feelings then why did she bother calling me and give me excuses as to why she was so busy and couldnt reply to the previous calls. and now just recently I call again, and we are back to square one with no replies. See? this is what makes me mad. I feel like I'm playing red light, green light. btw when I call and there's no answer I dont leave msg's seeing as how she has a phone that keeps track of what numbers called. No but how about being somewhat consistent so I know whether or not I'm wasting my time here. And yes I have blown someone off myself, but I either tell them i'm not interested or I don't contact them at all. And btw all I wanted was some reassuring advice, I already planned on not calling her again. What I didn't ask was someone on some holy female crusade telling me how it's ok to act in such a way. I once dated a girl years and years ago ( for about a month) that while we were dating was trying to get back with her EX, by screwing him. She eventually suceeded only to have him dump her again. All through that time she insisted we keep in touch cause she still "liked" me. I guess by your strange code of dating ethics that since were weren't actually together or married, she didn't owe me the respect to tell me what was going on either huh? and to the other replies, thank you very much good advice and insightful.

That's what I figured, oh well. As far as people not having to like others romantically, yeh I realize that. The problem is I wish it was just more cut and dry, I feel like i'm being given just enough attention for me to maintain contact why would someone even bother if they aren't interested? That's just rediculous, if you don't like someone romantically then you either tell them or never respond to their calls. Not just decide you want to pop in here and there at your leisure. I'm not some toy in a box. What she does owe me is some respect, I've been nothing but respectfull and patient back, I am tired of these games, this is the second time something like this has happened to me before, except it was with someone I was actually dating and much more extreme. This makes it very difficult to not hold a grudge. But I will just suck it up and act nice.

There's this girl I know from an old class I had with her. Since the class was over we have only talked on the phone here and there, well I give her a call and I get no answer so I leave a msg, I never got a reply. well about a month goes by and out of the blue she asks me to a sorority dinner, so I go, and have a good time. Well anyway I call about one week later and ask her out, she says yes, unfortunately it was finals week, so I planned on something two weeks from the time I called, which was the weekend after finals week and then unfortunately that weekend was graduation weekend. So I call the wednesday before graduation weekend ( the weekend I set before hand) asking if she still had time, and I never got a call back. So I wait till the following friday and call once more, I get no answer. five mins later I get a call back, she says she's sorry for not responding cause she was busy, graduation, family, minor surgery (which was mentioned at the dinner a month ago). I never brought up the not responding, she did. Said she just wanted to say hi and reply to my call but was tired and on medicine so the call ended early. I tell her I'll call her again in a couple days. Well anyway I call again about five days later, no answer. I call again the next day, which btw was yesterday, no answer. All I want to do is go out on a date, I mean seriously how busy can 1 person be all the time? I'm not asking for much just a lunch or dinner out, to spend some time together, a part of me realizes I shouldnt be so silly, but I can't help but feel rejected. I mean if you like someone don't you usually make some time for them. I dont even know if I should bother calling again. I already called twice and she has those phones that show who calls and when, so she knows I called her. I just don't know what to do and its driving me crazy. I'm thinking a) shes not interested but doesnt want to hurt my feelings, which I was she would just say so. b) I'm being strung along out of convenience for whatever reason. c) for some ungodly reason she's actually really busy. The odd thing is I've always felt something has been "off" when I had her in the class which was when I first met her and asked her out she said yes, but that next week which was the last week of that class she seemed like she was avoiding me, so I had second thoughts about going out and never called her to go out. But since then decided to stay in touch and call again and apologize for not calling. this was before the dinner.

This girl who I had in one of my previous classes called me up out of the blue about 2 months after I called her. My previous call went unanswered so I figured she was no interested. An she asks me if I was "available for her" to accompay her to a banquet, I say sure, so we go. Anyway the night went ok, thought I admit I clammed up a bit, I felt awkward being there with all her friends, in a room of pople I didnt know with a girl I didnt know that much about. But we conversed, took pictures together, the touching boundry was broken but there was no hand holding or anything like that. We held one another when we took pictures we looked into each others eyes alot and smiled. anyway when the music starts she tells me she shouldnt dance, due to an operation she recently had, and another one that she will have soon. but what happens? she ends up dancing, only one song though, with some other guy that was there, she seemed as though she knew him though so I guess I shouldnt feel upset at all, but at the time I did feel somewhat rejected, still do if I think about it. And we did end up dancing together, but dancing near and facing one another, not holding one another, unfortunately. They both danced in a basic ball room style of dance, where the guy leads and the women follows, which I did mention I didnt know how to do, but I said I was willing to try. anyway the night ended I drove her back to her place, and thanked her for inviting me she thanked me for coming and as we hugged I gave her a kiss on the cheek. but after that everyting seemed to go by so fast, I remember saying bye her saying bye and to not get lost on my way home (im terrible with directions ;p) But she never said to call her, and I didnt say that I would call her and worst of all I cant remember her reaction to the kiss. now my questions I ask myself are this: was this infact a date? should I give her a call? damn and what should I say? well ok maybe not what I should say I can make stuff up, but should I flat out ask her for a 2nd date?