missypal

You will need to decide when you need to change your number. Sometimes, hope can open the door to a renewal. Other times, hope can keep the door to emotional abuse open. I can only speak about how I feel. I wish all of this had not happened. He called today and left a message, and said he had to ask me a question. I would think that if it was so important that he would leave the question on the answering service. So far I have been okay with his leaving a message. I've had my phone numbe for 17 years....and well, it would be tough to change it now, but if I had to I will. You just take care. In time the pieces will come together. Be strong. I have decided that even if my ex wanted to come back, the question is...is this really the partner I want for life!

Sherry, My companion of 10 years said he wanted to be single again and out of the relationship. This is after three years of trying to trust him after catching him messing around. Now, it's my fault that we broke up because I couldn't trust him. Go figure this out...he's been lying about an apartment he has kept for over the last year. Take some time to breathe again, but if you're like me...there is some satisfaction about him calling and not answering the phone. The answer is really what you decide to do next. Even if you don't answer his calls, he still controls your emotions. At some point you will need to either work it out with him or get a new cell number. It's easy to get caught up in a game. When my companion cheated the first time a male friend says...yes, he will be good because he wants you back and he will do anything to get you back because you threw him out. I asked if a man could change. He said it depends on the man. Sometimes the fellow realizes how much he could lose. Other times the fellow just learns how to cover his tracks better so as not to get caught. Mine was the latter. This time he walked out...instead of being thrown out. I guess it's more palatable to him this way. Life is to short to keep wondering every minute where he is...if he's cheating...if he is truly repentent. Right now, this is all about you...and it should be! Prayers for you!

I know what you are going through. I've been there. There is always hope that the cheating will stop, yet you are never sure if it has stopped. You want to be open to him again, but you are afraid to be hurt again. So, the relationship suffers because the intimacy is gone. Although my ex swears he was not involved with someone when he decided he wanted to be single again, it's hard to believe. All he wants now is space to get rid of his compulsive lying. I don't think he can change and the next woman will be in for the same cheating. Still I know that it's awfully lonely now especially in the wee hours of the morning. Do you feel you can trust him now? Want to spend another 5 years wondering if he is still cheating. I tried to work it out for three years and each day I wondered where he was and if he was lying again.

After 10 years my partner and I have broken up. He has cheated on me three times. I've tried to forgive him but it hasn't work. He says he wants to be single, wants out of the relationship, but says he wants to take a vacation with me next month.