Stinkweed

Also, I need to add that I'm going to try to find out where she hangs out, and if I can go there with a couple of friends. But if that doesn't work, what should I do?

I like her a lot. It's just very hard for me to forgive myself for blowing it so badly and getting it out of my head. I know it will be like Eh? I'm Canadian said earlier in the post if I don't do something at all. I guess I will have to follow your advice... But I don't want to give up. There still has got to be something I can do. No, I won't call her then, because I'm no stalker. But what can I do to talk to her? All I need is enough time with her to apologize for the letter, and ask her email, and show her I'm not a bad guy. You know, correct the impression I gave her. What do you suggest?

no, not even a no... All I achieved was to freak her out. She didn't say anything. She just gave me a look, like she was deadly serious about something and turned her head. But she used to do that before I gave her the letter too. So, what does that mean? Well, I'm trying to get her email. I hope it goes better this time...

So... I am in the same dilemma. What is better, a phone call, or an email? Phone calls are more to the point, and guarantee a direct answer, and I will listen to what she has to say, and I will prove her that I gave her the wrong impression probably better. Email, on the other hand will freak her out less, but she won't know on what tone of voice I'm speaking (which is an important element in things that involve feelings), and I won't have an immediate answer. So, what should I do? Please, help me.

I will get her email from my friend. But I still I'm not sure if that's what I want to do. I mean, a phone call is better b/c I will get an immediate reaction. On the other hand, it will cause her to freak out more than an email. So, what should I do?

Alright. Lets see... I will do this no matter what. The problem is that calling her number without she having given it to me will probably freak her out. And well, I don't know about emailing her. I guess it would have less of an impact than a phone call. I need to do this. I found her phone number, but not her email in the student directory. I don't want to screw up even more badly... I know I'm human, and I shouldn't bother myself about the letter mistake. But it would have been better if I hadn't given it to her. Damn it, I wish I could do something. I don't want to move... Well, I'll try to give a call to my friend to see if he's got her email address. But what should I write? It will feel like I forced her to give me her email. I just wish I knew for sure how she was going to react about a phone call... If I knew it is going to be a good reaction, I would have done it already. Ok, I'll try to get her email. But I need help on what to write. I have no idea of how I should prevent her from freaking out.

Well, he said he would help. But I'm afraid he will do it too late. So, what should I do? Should I ask him for her email? If I don't hurry up, it will be too late. What should I tell her if I get her email?

Look, I just want to keep in touch with her. I don't have much time left. I'll be moving early next week. Besides the fact that it would have to be a miracle for something really important that would make her sad about my parting to happen in such a short period of time, I know I can't start dating her, because I'm moving. But I want to come back... A year from now, I may be able to. But in the meantime, I want to keep in touch. Maybe we could even hang out as friends one of these days. But that's about it...

Whoops, sorry. I didn't want to post this...

I think Eh? I'm Canadian has the right idea... A year will pass, and I will not have fogotten this screw up. I don't want that to happen. Should I call her? I am so tempted to do it, but I don't know how she might react, or if she will even pick up the phone after she knows who it is (I don't think she is that freaked out, or angry). So, ne ideas?

Hey muchas. No, her friend was the one that stopped in her tracks and stared at me when I called the girl's name. The girl asked her Y did she stop (after all, she was acting kinda weird)? Maybe she thought she was intruding, or something (damn right she was, but how could she know?). Look, I don't necessarily want to start dating her, but I would very very much like to correct the impression I gave her. I would also like to have her SN, so we can keep in touch. But if I don't do something, I will never hear from her again, because classes are over and I'm moving (maybe for a year, or a little less, or maybe forever if I don't say I want to come back) early next week. Believe me, I would come back any day just to have much more of a chance any day, but it ain't up to me. So, I would just settle with just being her friend. Well, maybe I could ask her to hang out w/me as friends, one of these days. But well, school is over, and if I don't do something before I move, I will never hear from her again. Would the phone call be an option, even though I didn't get her phone # from her? Sometimes I don't think it's such a good idea, but sometimes I think it might depend on what I would say. Please, what should I do? It's not her fault. I was the one that freaked her out with the letter. I need real advice, not just to forget...

See, Eh? Im Canadian, Now we're talking. That's exactly what I don't want to happen. The guilt... Ok, maybe I don't necessarily want to start dating her (although I do, but I have to consider that I'm moving), but I would like to at least be her friend, and keep in touch. Maybe we could hang out as friends some time. So, what can I do so something like that happens? Should I call her and tell her that I'm sorry for the letter? Of course, I would tell her the truth about why I got her phone number, which is b/c I really wanted to talk to her and didn't see her at school. Look, if I don't make a move, I will probably never hear from her again, and will always wonder. I know I'm not going to be her bf, but at least her friend... That would mean a lot. So, what should I do? I want her SN and to get to know her. Maybe we could hang out as friends one of these days. Is that being selfish?

I just can't do anything right now. I'm just hoping that my friend comes up with an idea, or something. If not, then there is nothing I can do. I hate feeling so helpless, but there is really nothing I can do. And I do know that if anything between her and me was meant to be, for my part, it would survive any distance, and I would do my best to keep it that way (after all, it wouldn't be forever).

I'll always blow it. It's in my nature. I'm sort of one of those so called "nice guys". You know, shy, understanding, considerate and kind of sensitive. I just am not in the mood to change. And yeah, I do know I blew it big time with the stupid letter.

I'm moving to another state. Actually, from PA to FL, and it will probably be for either a year, of forever (It depends. It's because of my father's job. He may get it done in less than a year. But even then, if I don't say I want to come back, we won't). I just wish I could mean something to her. You know, have a good solid reason to come back. I do like her very much. She is unique, and everything I know about her I like. In fact, the more I find out, the more I like. I won't say more, because everyone will think I'm obsessing. But that's not true. The truth is that I still feel there is hope, no matter what everyone says. And I don't think I can even forgive myself for failing so miserably.

Look, I wish it was just me being a wuss. But you probably don't know all the facts. I bet you didn't read the part where I wrote I'm moving. Did you? Now, you will say I should forget about it. There is nothing I can do, alright? I don't think there is anything you can do to help me. I really appreciate your effort, though. Thanks.

Alright, that's the best case scenario. Now lets get real. What if my friend forgets, or does it too late? I need to do this this week. What should I do? It's not that I don't trust him, but that I feel that if you want things well done, you have to do them yourself. Should I wait a while? Please, I'm running out of options.

It's not because I'm a wuss. It's because we are talking about serious stuff. Maybe that rose thing works in movies. But in this case, she could think I'm stalking her. Besides, I don't know where she lives, and doubt she would even open the door. In fact, my letter probably freaked her out so much that she might even call the police. I will do that as a last resort. More ideas anyone?

Alright, I'll do that. I just need to wait for my friend to contact me... I don't think he will forget.

I didn't get the number from anyone. I looked in the student directory. But I could try to do that with a friend I have that knows her very well. Is there any way I can hang out only with her?

Well, I also think about the phone call that way. And well, my friend, the one I mentioned earlier, said he has her screen name. He hasn't contacted me yet (I guess he hasn't come up with any ideas yet). But I know he will. I will give him my screen name (he only has my email). But lets say he does what you say. What should I say? I have not idea at all of what I should do if that happens. I feel kind of helpless...

Yeah, but the problem is that I doubt she will see it as sweet. She is probably freaked out by the letter. I didn't get her phone number from her. Sometimes I think there is a chance things could work that way. But I am not sure. I wouldn't want her to think I'm a stalker. There has to be something else. I will call her as a last resort. But what should I say?

I have a post: link removed It's very long, but I seriously need to do something about it. My goal was to talk to her either yesterday, or today, but I didn't see her. Alright, I know I blew it with the stupid letter, but I wanted very badly to make it up. I was going to follow yeayeayea's advice, but I didn't see her. It's too late to do that now. What should I do now? I have her phone #, but I will not call her just yet, because of how she might react (Maybe she will find my interest in her good, or she may see me as a stalker). I seriously don't know what to do. I have a good friend that knows her well, and he says he will try to help me out (even though he also says it is hard). I shouldn't have given her the stupid letter. But what if he can't? Can anyone help me?

Nothing happened. She wasn't in school. I looked for her over and over again. This time I only saw some girls that occasionally hang out with her, not even the ones that hang out with her all the time. I asked a friend if she was in school, and he told me she wasn't. He guessed why I was looking for her, and was right. He said he knows her, and told me a bunch of things about her (He knows where she lives, and her screen name, which I told him not to give me yet, b/c of how she might react). So, I gave him my email, and he says he will help me, and will try to think of something and will tell me. I'm counting on him. But if he can't do anything, can anyone give me some advice? I found out her phone # just in case, but I hope I don't have to use it until she "gives" it to me. Please, tell me what I should do.

Alright man. I'll do exactly what you say. It sound cool, you know. Well, the problem is not so much with picking up my balls anymore. It's more of not seeing her. I looked for her the whole day like crazy and dind't see her. Tomorrow I will look even more. If I see her, I'll talk to her, I swear. Thanks for your advice. I'll post and pm you when something happens.