DragonGirl724

this guy fears being alone. maybe he had issues as a child of abandonment or something. never the less, sorry to be so blunt, but there are major issues going on here. obsession at times can even lead to violence.

it sounds like you have your life in order, you can be happy with or without him, he unfortuantly will crumble to pieces with just the thought of losing you. you can not be the source of his happiness. and we all know that TRUE happiness comes straight from the source-oneself. he will fall apart with the thought of not having such a level headed, intelligent GF like yourself. it sounds like he doesn't really like who he is & fears having to face 'himself' on his own one day. the concept of being single scares him to death. you are everything he is not. that is why i said in a relationship we need someone who compliments our traits, not PROVIDES us with them (complimentary vs. supplimentary). you are his stability, you are his social life, you are his support system, you are his ONLY FRIEND, you are his happiness, you are his sole confidant you are his EVERYTHING he needs to survive. thats too damn much if you ask me. he needs to find his own friends & his own life! if he doesn't get out before it gets EVEN UGLIER...

-DG724

have you been just willingly accepting of his behavior these past 4 months? or has there been continuous fights about how he is suffocating you? is he aware of how his obsession urks you?

i strongly suggest that you sternly tell him how his clinginess is extremely unattractive, and how you dont like playing 'parent' by guiding him day by day! he is your BOYFRIEND not your kid! he is becoming wayyyy too depependant on you and you have to let him know that you wont tolerate it. put your foot down NOW & tell him that you are going to have your own life and you suggest he does the same. you are young & your youth passes with each day, seize it now while you can. 'be young have fun'. nows the time to do it. he is not your child, he is not your dependant, in a relationship a couple must be equal. complimentary to eachother, not supplementary...you have a life, he doesnt, so he sucks all that is your life out of you so you are 'on his level'. he does this subconsciously, but his emotions which make him do such things, he is very well aware of. he gets moody, jealous & discustingly upset when you want to do other things. SET HIM STRAIGHT OR KICK HIM TO THE CURB! he will drag you down with him. this wont end unless you put a stop to it, it will only spiral downwards from here if you dont put him in his place. he IS obsessed with you and he makes you feel guilty about hangin out w/ your friends so you feel bad for him & 'choose' to hang out with him instead. his world revolves around you and you do NOT want that. even YOU know it. this boy will crash BIGTIME if/when you 2 breakup. if you dont begin to steer him in a more reasonable mindset NOW this will be disasterous.

and then you can expect an overly depressed, even more obsessive EX-BF.

speak up & if he doesn't listen or if he lays on the tears & guilt trips cut him off that very minute. he needs to understand that the more he pulls you towards him, the more distant you will become. and unfortunately, if you dont nip this in the bud NOW, the only alternative will be to cut him off entirely...drastic times call for drastic measures.

GOODLUCK!

-DG724

the waters look unstable with this dude. but then again it IS a 'DATING' websyte, not a 'looking for just one specific person site'. lol

hey, you may be "just another girl he wants to meet", but then again, he's just another guy youd like to meet too.

thats what dating is all about. its got its ups & downs.

but personally it's starting off crappy already, so if i were you i know id just get a bad taste in my mouth from him & not bother to make plans with him anymore. delete him from your buddy list, who cares. oh well, move onto the next guy....take a number fellas. lol and unfortunately you may have to take a number as well. thats the dating game for ya.

-DG724

great post. this should help many. so many people need to just snap out of the 'post breakup rut'. this post may motivate some.

-DG724

"The brain is the most important sex organ in your body," says Dr. Abboud

this may help answer your question and give you a better understand about your 'tingling' :

link removed

-DG724

i feel terrible about your loses. you can share your feelings with us on the forum. we'll be here for you.

and as for your friend....if you come out of nowhere (since you 2 havent talked in forever) and say "hey i saw your man kissing some chick at the mall." she more than likely wont believe you.

BUT! if it urks you more than you can handle then send her an email or something.

tell her: "i know we havent spoken in a long time, but i saw something the other day, i was just going to ignore it but it killed me to not say anything to you. well, this is difficult to say, but, i saw *his name* at the mall, he was wearing *describe his outfit* and well, i hate to be the bearer of bad news but i saw him kiss some girl *describe the girl* and he begged me not to tell you. i told him i wouldnt tell you anything, but i am. i know this probably isnt my place to say anything but i know what it feels like to hurt, and well, i guess i just had to clear my conscience about it and give you this 'heads up'. once again i am so sorry and i hope for your sake that you believe me. i wish you all the best. and once again im sorry for having to be the one to tell you this, in an email none the less, but if i didnt say anything it would have felt much worse. take care."

the Golden Rule is "Treat others the way you'd want to be treated.."

even if the other person may not deserve such tender treatment...(as difficult and annoying that can be sometimes.)

-DG724

maybe she isnt comfortable with herself or her own body. maybe being naked makes her feel too exposed & vulnerable and thereforeeee she pulls away and refrains from doing it....

its a possibility.

-DG724

"the reverse cowgirl".

look it up.

it takes a lot of muscle for the girl to do it right for a long period of time. and man, the guy gets a pretty sweet view & deep penetration.

-DG724

there are forums and chats for those diagnosed with certain viruses.

i googled this for you link removed

goodluck hun & take care of yourself.

HPV doesnt necessarily mean you will get cervical cancer. keep your immune system up and make some healthy changes in your lifestyle.

-DG724

well my first time was my BF at the time's first time as well. so it was 'magical' kinda in that sense. lol it was also painful, uncomfortable & confusing. ha!

the fairy tale romantic -bed covered in rose petals, surrounded by scented candles, night full of passionate magical love making- is rare for first timers.

dont stress girl. if youre that paranoid about it, then chill out & refrain from it until you feel more secure in your relationship.

but im warning you, once you start having sex, its hard to stop. lol

-DG724

IF YOUR WORRIED ABOUT GETTING HER OR ANYONE ELSE PREGNANT THEN DONT HAV SEX!!!BEST THING TO DO!!!!!IF U ARE GONNA HAVE SEX AT ALL THEN USE PROTECTION IT IS USUALLY RARE OF IT RIPPING IF USED CORRECTLY!!!!!!

geez calm down girl. he asked a reasonable question.

check out these links:

condom shopping guide

link removed

directions for correct use

link removed

all other Q&A for condoms, its uses and quality of protection

link removed

i know people who's condom has ripped during intercourse. it happens.

-DG724

if shes attempting to make you jealous shes immature.

id crack on her if i were you. if shes blatenly talking loud say something equally as annoying like: "HEY!!!!!! CAN YOU HEAR ME NOW?!?!?! OF COURSE I CAN B/C YOURE SCREAMING LIKE AN OBNOXIOUS PAIN IN THE *beeeeeep*"

or simply say "hey loudmouth!! mind turning it DOWN a few decibels?! good Lord your voice can wake up the dead!"

or "...the deaf just called they said STFU!"

laugh it off & walk away.

-DG724

hey, sorry i havent signed onto the forum in AGES. im glad this helped out some of you. thats awesome. and im flattered you kept a copy for yourselves.

take care all,

-DG724

hilarious guys. 8 pages of nonsense. probably 9 by late morning. lol

sex, dead bodies, and arcades.

thats what life is all about anyway isnt it? lol

-DG724

i agree with annie 100%. ive made out in my car before but dont go gettin naked if people are around its still illegal to screw in your car or even take your top off. at least it is in the states. if you get caught youll get fined for indecent exposure...try explaining that to your parents. lol!

-DG724

hilarious.

love the 'KISS MY' avatar as well!

-DG724

erm.. let's not go as far as where to have sex.

 

The post is asking advice for 'making out'.

 

It's illegal to have sex in a public place.. Let's just state that lol.

i said screwing with their clothes on. because when your sitting on eachother's lap groping eachother slobbering all over each other's faces, myself as plenty of thers find that behavior very distracting, vulgar & gross.

i wont discuss this any further. i cant help you, i wouldnt know where to "make out in an arcade". its a toss up between the wack-a-mole & the air hockey table.

*runs to the bathroom* lol

-DG724

Dragon oh jeeze, don't be such a bore.

Immature? Who wants a mature lover during sex? That's what I call a BORING lay. I am more interested in spontenuity and adventure.

And yes cornfields are great ('one' of the best actually) and romance is wonderful, but sometimes kinky and impulsive can be fun.

a 'bore' i am far from any of my past partners, or posts ive made about sex could tell you that. but to see people screwing with their clothes on in an arcade, supermarket, ball game etc. is vomit inticing. and im sure i am far from alone on that.

-DG724

it just looks so immature & rediculous.

-DG724

haha .. a boyfriend would probably not make me happy right now. I can definitely be happy without one ..

 

 

 

im with you on that one.

 

-DG724

being in a relationship should NOT be what makes you happy. happiness comes from within first & foremost.

i find happiness the most when im hangin with upbeat fun people, going out til all hours and being able to sleep in late , listening to music and doing something artistic.

-DG724

Ideals vary from person to person.

Everything you 2 listed is not what everyone wants. there is no "GENERALIZED IDEALISTIC MAN". Some people couldnt care less about dancing, or children, and may want someone whos on the shorter side.....

personally, id probably prefer a decent looking ambitious guy, has a huge heart, sense of humor & shares similar beliefs/morals.

-DG724

In my opinion, in the bathroom stall (if it's clean) or better yet, in front of everybody else ( as long as security or kids aren't present).

PDA [/i]

people dont want to see that crap.

-DG724

im spending my summer in Pennsylvania.

there's plenty there.

-DG724

how about not at an arcade....

the other night i shared an evening with the guy im dating in a secluded corn field under the clear night sky flooded with stars and we were surrounded by fire flies.

how cool is THAT?!

i suggest you go find yourself a corn field.

-DG724