roccosgal

Thanks for the advice so far. I am hoping that this weekend I can hear from him. I don't know if he was able to get his work email or not since he is out in the field so much. If he doesn't I would hope that on Monday he will respond to me with some sort of communication. We were suppose to spend the summer together and now that is totally in limbo, I want to spend it with him so bad, but I guess that will have to be something that he asks for from me if ever. I teach school so my summers are mine to do what I want and well I want to do that with him..

I did end up emailing him with this email: I do look forward to hearing from you again on the phone. I left it at that with him.... I really don't want to screw this up.. I see him missing me so much but I also see a scared man who doesn't know what to do next.. he has feelings for me and does not know what to do with them.

So, my question is this... even though HE contacted me through phone and email do I ever respond to him or it? I don't want to push him away by not emailing and not calling back... do men keep persuing if they really want you and you are not responding?

To be honest I don't know if he is completely giving it all.. he really tries to when he can .. really does make the effort!!!! But he is acting weird since we broke up , not wanting me to talk about the relationship.. it seems to push him backwards

I am hoping that within the next two years that he will want to be married. He is skiddish of marriage and I understand why after his divorce but it has been 2 years and I would hope that he could move on. I know that I want him... I have never ever wanted anyone this much before in my life. He is the love of my life and I have never ever been with someone who has made me feel like such a woman and all. I have an email just waiting here to email him telling him that I look forward to talking to him soon. I want to send it, but I am so scared too..uh!!

I told him repeatedly that I was not wanting marriage in the next year. I also let him know that I would be honored to have the privilege of raising his kids with him. I think he is scared of divorce again and does not want the kids to get hurt. I know what it entails to be married to someone who already has kids, I have read up on it and asked around. I know what I want and I want him. I just wish that he would realize that I meant what I said. I want so badly to call and talk, I would not bring up emotions or what I think should be happening.. I just wnat to hear his voice.. is that so wrong? He obviously wanted to hear mine too and let me know that he missed me.

We broke up the day after I visited him for a week. He thought that since I am 35 years old that I am in a rush to get married. I never said that to him. He also thinks that I want kids, he has his own two kids and they are young and live with him.. that is all I ever wanted. He left me since he thought that I would be led on for to long thinking that I was going to be proposed to and I was not. I need to call him so bad.. but I am scared to see what he says.. I know that he misses me.. but what will his tone be with me if I initiate the call back to him..

Hello Everyone, I need some help quickly. My boyfriend broke up with me last month. We had been going out over a year. Well, I did the no contact rule and broke it this past monday and emailed him that I missed talking to him and sent him pictures of my dog. Well he responded yesterday to the pictures via email and then called me five minutes later and I did not answer, his message was that he missed talking to me too. I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO!! Do I call him back or wait till he calls me back? I don't want to push him farther away by not talking to him.. HELP ME! I would like to know what to do before this weekend .. Thanks you all are wonderful...

I have been involved with a man for the last 13 months. He is divorced and has custody of his two young kids. I have gotten to know the kids and they have gotten to know me and we get along great. Well, last month when I went to visit him( we were in a long distance relationship, because of military obligations) we had a great time. I got home and the next day he called me and told me that he felt like he needed to break it off since he did not think that he could give me what I wanted. He felt like I as a 35 year old woman is desperate to get married within the next year and have kids. He does not want anymore. I never told him I wanted any kids, I felt like being a stepmom to his children would be enough. He never told me in the 13 months that we were together that he was in love with me, but he showed it in different ways by sending me plane tickets to come visit, sending me flowers, giving me gifts and helping me repair things around my place. He always told me that every minute with me was wonderful for him. Well I feel like he got nervous about his feelings and his thinking that I wanted to get married and have kids that he broke it off. This was a month ago and during the 26 days he has been in contact 13 of those days either through email or phone calls. I am trying to get over him, but I can't since he is contacting me. He wants to be friends with me he says since we had such a great thing that he still wants to be in contact. I told him 3 times already that I don't want to be his friend, that I can't do that. Well this week he sent me two emails upset that I was not emailing him back, I told him that I was not going to be his email buddy and that if he wanted to talk to me that he needed to call me and talk about things that were substantial, like us. NOt BSing about nothing at all. I also wrote that in aletter that I mailed him and told him that as much as I love him and want to I can't be his friend. I told him that becuase I love him so much I am going to give him space to decide what he wants out of his life. Well, to make a long story short, I think I ruined it. I think my harshness might have just totally cut it for good. He will not email or call me now. I guess that is what I wanted in the first place cause my heart hurt so badly. But, now that he is not contacting me my heart is totally broken. I can't even concentrate or do anything. I want him back soooooo badly!! Does anyone think they know what is happening? He is a strong military man who does not show his emotions, so he is a hard one to crack. Do I keep hoping or do I give up? ANY help would be appreciated.