Stood Up?

[AOX]

I met a guy 2 weeks ago whom I have had daily contact with up until Friday. We set a date to hang out Friday, however he called Wednesday canceling. His excuse was he had forgotten about a promise he made to a friend (BS?) He rescheduled asking to hang out Sunday, which is tomorrow. I haven’t heard from him since Friday. Can anyone help me find some clarity to this? Am I being given the run-around? Or could it just be my own insecurities?

[Kevin T]

Did he give you a time tomorrow? If so, see if he shows tomorrow. If not, you've been stood up.

[AOX]

No time was set, or exact place. The idea was to go ice skating, a few places were mentioned, however nothing specific. I don’t want to seem desperate in calling him, if standing me up are his intentions.

[sweetheart21]

Maybe send a text message saying- Are you still up for ice skating tomorrow?

or something casual like that. You wont sound desperate

[AOX]

I don’t want to be the one contacting him, though. My pride is too great and my ego is hanging on by a thread at the moment I hope I'm just way ahead of myself here.

[Kevin T]

See if he contacts you tomorrow. If not, then you know.

 

Even if you have been stood up, it's not the end of the world as you know it. There are plenty of great guys out there.

[AOX]

I guess that’s what I’ll be doing then, waiting. I was really looking forward to seeing him; my first date in a long while. I’m a little rusty from being off the saddle, so to speak. Potentially being stood up right when I jump back in isn’t proving to be the best confidence booster either.

[Kevin T]

Try not to take it personally.

[AOX]

Haha feels like that's becoming my life's quote, and I most definitely will try! I appreciate all your input, thanks.

[afonselaca]

When you talk to him tell him not to leave you hanging in the future (so this doesn't become okay to do to you... a pattern sets in and it isn't fun to be left waiting... ask me how I know). Tell him your time is valuable to you and you could have planned to do something else. Then ask him to give you the same courtesy he would give a client. That's it. Drop it. He'll get the idea you aren't going to stand up for being stood up... hey, that kinda sounds cool

[afonselaca]

BTW, Kevin: I can't take you looking at me like that!

[Kevin T]

Are you referring to Simon?

 

He's not so bad, once you get to know him. lol

[rnorth]

Its Monday and you may have already seen him, but its horribly rude of a guy to not call to confirm plans. He may either just be clueless or a jerk. Don't ever wait around for someone; go ahead and make your own plans. He had just done that to you....

[AOX]

“stand up for being stood up” ha afonselaca, I like that. Well he did call, very late into the day asking if we were still on. I didn’t mention the fact he kept me hanging. I really like the guy so I’m trying to give him a chance. I absolutely don’t want that becoming a habit. I'm saying something if it happens again, we're going out this wednesday.

[Kevin T]

Well, least he called. That was kind of him.