how can I make this work?

[workaholic]

I want to kiss a girl I've dated for the second time. After we go to the movies I'll walk her to my car and drive her home. So, I daydreamed about what I was going to do (not a big guarantee that things will really happen this way) and I came up with a loose, loose plan:

 

I WON'T say the magic words "You're so beautiful" unless it's after she wants me to kiss her. It's a trade off..she communicates that she's ready for me, and I respond. Women receive compliments from guys all of the time, and guys do that because they believe compliments will make women love them. No.

 

HOWEVER..

From time to time as we're walking, I'll look into her eyes, lovingly. Hopefully she'll let me hold her hand. I smile at her, then when it looks like I'm about to kiss her I immediately go back to talking about our conversation and act as if nothing happened. I'll repeat this process until I finally get really close to her and try to kiss her.

 

NO SEX TALK AT ALL:

And I won't say lovey-dovey things at all. I won't mention any sexual innuedos, nor will I make a slight reference to sex, love, kissing, romance in our conversations.

 

Can this work/get me results?

[Kalika]

Maybe instead of trying to control everything, you just relax and do what feels right at the time..

[DeviousOne]

SO what kinda results are you trying to get here and what do you want w/ this girl? Sounds like your wanting a relationship or based on what you said that how your coming off...

[mysteryman]

If you over analyze the situation, your going to mess yourself up. When the time comes, you will know. But try not to wait too long to do it because some girls will think of you as more of a friend.

[workaholic]

I want to kiss this girl and have sex with her. A relationship with her would be OK. I do want her though. Yes, it does seem that I'm over-thinking this but like I said..there's no guarantee that things will happen the way I want them to. Nothing really does, anyway.

[friscodj]

All your analyzation and planning are going to go straight out the window when the time comes anyway, but it has utility in giving you an illusion of comfort I guess. And these plans never go exactly as you think, so be prepared to be unprepared...

 

The key for you will be not giving into the fear of acting on what you will see and feel or creating a situation that really isn't there because you've been building this up so much.

 

Good luck buddy.

[hosswhispra]

I actually think that your plan is good. In psychology there is a concept of envisioning 'success' and then actually achieving it. Let us know how it goes.