24 year old virgin needs advice.....

[absolutely confused]

o.k. i am a 24 year old virgin...by choice....for many reasons. i am freaking out because i recently started think ALOT about girls. its to the point that i dont even check out guys as much as i do girls. so what exactly does this mean? i have messed around with guys, and enjoyed it...but now i cant stop wondering what its like with a girl...please can somebody give me some advice?

[Baby Carrot]

Well, it means you´re curious perhaps?

 

Would it be a major drama if it meant you are bisexual?

 

I haven´t stopped wondering what would be like to do a girl, in... let´s see... 7 years? And to the present day.

 

What triggered those thoughts for you?

[absolutely confused]

i think perhaps i am bi...and yes it is a big deal... i dont think i could ever come out to anybody...i am not real sure what triggered all the feelings...i just imagined myself kissing a girl one day...and couldnt stop thinking about it...and now i imagine doing all kinds of things with girl...i am absolutely confused...

[Baby Carrot]

Well first of all... you dont have to come to anyone. Is your business.

 

Are you like really religious or conservative?

 

I mean, my advice would be to let go and even explore, cuz this is just part of your sexuality. But if you are, is gonna be a major conflict, and is gonna be constantly making you feel guilty and lousy...

[absolutely confused]

nope i am not religious at all...agnostic actually. and i really really want to just let loose and try it with a girl...but i think if it came down to it i would chicken out...just like i do with guys...im not very experienced at all for my age...and cant help but wonder what i am missing out on...

[Baby Carrot]

So are you a virgin by choice? Or because you´ve chickened out?

 

I´m not very experienced either, but yeah sex is great. I also feel like I´m missing yout since I´ve never had the chance to do another girl... Everyone around here is absolutely and 100% straight... is frustrating LOL.

 

When I was a teenager, I wouldn´t even mention openly I had fantasies with girls cuz it would have been shocking. Even now, I hate it when someone assumes everybody is supposed to be like christian and hetero by default.

 

Just embrace your curiosity as part of your sexuality. There´s really nothing dangerous about fantasizing or feeling attracted by other girls. Is quite cool actually. Girls are prettier and smell better then guys

[J6hn]

When you're ready.

The sooner you start the sooner you'll become comfortable with it.

There's no pressure, just go with what you feel and just slide into your sexuality.

It shouldn't tear you up.

Don't feel like you have to go jump on the next woman or man you see, if something feels right then just go for it.

[J6hn]

Girls are prettier and smell better then guys

 

Seconded.

But some of us try.

[coffeeformylover]

Being a virgin isn't such a bad thing. In fact, I wish I was a virgin when I met my life partner. Embrace your curiosity and like J6hn said don't feel like you have to jump on the next guy or girl you see.

[absolutely confused]

thanks for the replies i appreciate the advice...still not sure what i am going to do...

[absolutely confused]

what dont you get red queen?

[TheRedQueen]

what dont you get red queen?

Sorry, that post was in reference to the deleted post.

 

As for advice, one word.....experiment!!!

 

I've always been bi-curious, and two years ago I finally had the opportunity to "heavily" hook up with a girl. It was an awesome experience, one that I'd repeat, as well as highly recommend!