absolutely confused

not only is she my boss she is also my best friend....i dont know what my feelings are towards her...or any other girl right now...i still like guys too...but i REALLY like kissing girls! pleas tell me that makes sensed to somebody out there! i dont know what here feelings are...we dont regret what we did...i just want to know if we are going to do it again!

o.k. so i have talked before about my boss who is female and about maybe messing around with her...well i happened a couple of days ago...we got extremely drunk and one thing led to another. although we didnt go "all the way" it was several hours of heavy kissing, groping, and petting...as you can imagine we were rather shy and embarrassed around each othe the next day. everything seems to be getting back to normal now....everything but me...i really,really liked what we did...so what exactly does that make me? im not very experienced with guys and this is the first girl ive ever messed around with....it its possible i think im even more confused than i was in the beginning...has anyone been in the same situation? i can use any advice! thanks alot!

what dont you get red queen?

thanks for the replies i appreciate the advice...still not sure what i am going to do...

thank you for the advice honeyspur...i apprecieate it. however the "boss" situation is a sticky one. i get mixed signals from her all of the time, and i dont know how to go about it or which ones i should read into. if anything ever was to happen she would have to make the first move...and i dont know if she is willing to do that. plus i work with her everyday almost and she is one of my best friends...i dont want to go making things uncomfortable between us...and i would just die if anyone ever found out...but on the other hand i really want something to happen...it would appear that i am equally screwd...

o.k. i am going to try this again...but i will tell the whole story this time.... i was sexually abused when i was very young...and ive never told anyone...this is the closest that ive ever come to acknowledging it outside of my mind in 18 years. i am terrified to have sex with a man or woman...and it doesnt help matters that i have extremely low self esteem...so the thought of somebody seeing me naked much less touching me naked completely unnerves me. i spent all of my childhood and most of my adult life trying to avoid being touched by anyone. now this is where i get really confused....because recently i have been having all of these desires for women...one in particular...she is my best friend and boss. for the most part none of my thoughts are ever about sex...their just about kissing and touching and being close to her. but i also have these feelings for guys too. its just that anytime ive been with a guy the kissing always has to lead to something else and thats when i freeze up. ive never kissed a woman...so all of that is uncharted territory for me. it just really freaks me out that i have not been able to have sex yet...i mean how long am i going to be like this? im to scared to talk to someone in person...even a counselor. i just need to find somebody out there in a similar situation...that can give me some good advice....

nope i am not religious at all...agnostic actually. and i really really want to just let loose and try it with a girl...but i think if it came down to it i would chicken out...just like i do with guys...im not very experienced at all for my age...and cant help but wonder what i am missing out on...

i think perhaps i am bi...and yes it is a big deal... i dont think i could ever come out to anybody...i am not real sure what triggered all the feelings...i just imagined myself kissing a girl one day...and couldnt stop thinking about it...and now i imagine doing all kinds of things with girl...i am absolutely confused...

o.k. i am a 24 year old virgin...by choice....for many reasons. i am freaking out because i recently started think ALOT about girls. its to the point that i dont even check out guys as much as i do girls. so what exactly does this mean? i have messed around with guys, and enjoyed it...but now i cant stop wondering what its like with a girl...please can somebody give me some advice?