Help me please

[poorguy78]

Hello,

 

I am a 28 yr male. I am married and have a daughter. I am happy with my wife and have regular sex with her. But I am kind of addicted to sex. I used to see porn movies and see nude images earlier.

 

I have stopped using any kind of sexual material now, but whatever i did from last 10 years is not getting out of my mind now. I see every women as a sex object. I try to stop those thoughts but I am not completely successful in it.

 

I want to grow in a good way and I always afraid about mistakes. I never had sex outside my marriage and I have stopped viewing porn material. That way I think I am not totally addicted to porn.

 

I want to respect other women and don't want to think bad about them.

 

Sometimes I feel really depressed.

 

WHAT SHOULD I DO TO GET RID OF SEX ADDICTION?

 

AM I REALLY ADDICTED OR CONFUSED.

 

IS IT NECESSARY TO RESPECT OTHER WOMEN? AND HOW?

 

Poor Guy

[Blue Dreamer]

Very necessary to respect other women. They are humans just as you are. You are confused based on your previous thoughts/experiences and as a result, perceptions of women. You are growing up and starting to think straight. Good for you.

[AntiLove_SuperStar]

I admire you immensely - for stopping your use of porn, for being faithful to your wife, for wanting to stop seeing women as sex objects.

 

I'd also like to remind you that (assuming you live in the US/UK/another Westernized society) it isn't all your fault - media, sick cultural ideas etc have somewhat conditioned you to view women as inferior beings only good for sex.

 

Determination to change is 80% of the battle..and remind yourself of how well you're doing. A helpful thing to do might be to spend some time (not loads, you don't have to write dissertations for this to work!) just researching some important women in history, to give you a new perspective on what the female gender can do. Try link removed and just browse around it.

[Momene]

I don't think how you feel is much different from many/most of us. Congratulations on staying faithful. It's not having lustful feelings for other women that is wrong, it is following them that is.