I don't want my stuff..but

[shoebaby1]

Its so expensive. Me and him broke up and I have a new bike over his house and a small refrigerator. I also have a key to his house. I don't want to go over there and get the stuff because it will hurt, and be finalized... what am I gonna do?

[melrich]

Call him and see if you can organise a time to pick them up when he is not there. Or maybe he can organise one of his friends to drop the stuff to you.

[g44]

tell him u are coming over to pick it up, and its best that he's not there. get yer stuff and leave the key. make sense?

[shoebaby1]

i dont even want to talk to him at all, I am seriously anticipation letting him just have my stuff

[bhzmafia]

Get one of your friends to call him, and possibly they could pick it up as well. Im sure they would understand.

[melrich]

I wouldn't do that. Surely you guys have a mutual friend who could organise it for you?

[shoebaby1]

we don't have a mutual friend

[melrich]

we don't have a mutual friend

 

So what sort of relationship was it then? Very short?

 

If no mutual friends get one of your friends or family to do it.

[annie24]

I agree, ask a friend to do it for you. Or if you can't get a friend, you can also hire a taxi service. Many taxis also act as "couriers", delivering papers and packages to companies, so I don't see why they can't do that here... except a bike and fridge might be big and bulky.

 

ok, ask a friend..... or, get a friend to come with you. I have been in that situation, and having a friend there makes things more unemotional and makes things go a bit smoother. you're not going to get into a serious conversation about the relationship or start bawling if your friend is there helping you move the fridge.

[g44]

as long as he/she is not there it shouldn't be a problem

 

plus, think about this

 

if he trusts u to let u into his house without being there..well...and what the hell are u doing with his keys...

 

shouldn't u have sent those back ages ago...shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhshhhh

[annie24]

I wouldn't go in without him knowing. it would freak him out. it would freak ME out!

 

better to come get the stuff when he is there, or have one of your friends do the transfer for you. and give the key back then.

[g44]

i know my ex still has a few keys and i haven't asked for them because doncha think they would do that themself?

 

and when u think about it - that's a great time to bring the new guy over too. get everything over in one big swoop. have a triple, triple and grab yer stuff, give back the keys [lol] and its as easy as that.

 

good luck

[annie24]

I think you should get your keys back!

 

I'd be afraid of an ex coming by when I was not in town, to look through my stuff, take something, YIKES!

 

change those locks or get the keys back!

[poetsheart]

I agree, call him set a time and date, let him know you will be picking up your things, just do it and don't look back. It's hard, but you have to get your things....

[whoops]

okay brutal as i may sound grab your balls and just go and get your stuff a year on from this you will feel silly you never got your stuff - give him your keys and just do it - it will be a form of closure

[g44]

we shared a home together

 

and i would never worry about her going thru things...there's nothing to hide...

 

she knows this place like mad...

 

that is so not a concern

 

the only thing i would be worried about is her hiding behind the shower curtain and scaring the cra=p out of me

 

wait. that's something i would do - lol

 

she would be free to grab something to eat, and drink and watch the tube..

 

it's all kewl