neurotic penguin Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Hi everyone, this is my first post on this board. I've been in a relationship with my current bf for around a year now. We've had some rough times, but we've always managed to pull through. Recently I found out that he had been contacting a former interest of his through online and phone messaging...plus I discovered that he checks up on her webpage every now and then...also, he talked with her about the problems we've been having...even after stating that we would never talk to others about it. He told me that he did this to make her feel jealous. Why would he do this? Is it because he still has some feelings for her? He said he just wanted revenge for the rough times she put him through...but I'm not sure. It makes me feel really insecure and jealous myself. He also lied about her to me when explaining his past...he says he hid her because of the way I would react. I dont know what to do. Any input would be appreciated. I feel that it will end the relationship for me. Thanks. Link to comment
Caterina Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 Wow, thats some really loving behaviour on his behalf, there. What are you going to do with such a deeply thoughtful and committed guy? You deserve better. Link to comment
neurotic penguin Posted June 13, 2006 Author Share Posted June 13, 2006 He said he knew how I would react because of my show of jealousies...does that justify this? Link to comment
cmd Posted June 13, 2006 Share Posted June 13, 2006 I agree with Caterina in that if he respected your wishes and lived up to what you both agreed on he would not be contacting his ex. It sounds like there is something else there that he is not telling you. Trust your gut. It is probably correct. Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 Hi Penguin, Welcome to eNotAlone, Could please read this and let us know how he matches attributes outlined: link removed Link to comment
neurotic penguin Posted June 14, 2006 Author Share Posted June 14, 2006 that was a disturbing read...he fits most of those characteristics... then again, some of them describe me as well... this is really disheartening... Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 14, 2006 Share Posted June 14, 2006 that was a disturbing read...he fits most of those characteristics... then again, some of them describe me as well... this is really disheartening... Sorry, I send this to everyone seeking emotional and relationship advise now. I tell you a secret. Pssst, it matched me too, albeit I have/am improving myself. Please don't tell anyone So, about yourself, work on yourself, about your bf, see if he can fix it or cut him loose. We are always here for you. Link to comment
CHINOOKA Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Hehe wow he is a real cassanova isnt he? He pulled the old switcheroo on you. First he do something to hurt you, then he makes you apologize. This is a good game, because most people will feel guilt when the person pulls the switch. Link to comment
nottoogreen Posted June 18, 2006 Share Posted June 18, 2006 Hehe wow he is a real cassanova isnt he? He pulled the old switcheroo on you. First he do something to hurt you, then he makes you apologize. This is a good game, because most people will feel guilt when the person pulls the switch. Ahh, never thought of that. CHINOOKA, you think cassanova was a loser? Have a look at this article: link removed... Link to comment
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