My ex e-mailed me this week

[Bostich]

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[Skippy]

if you think are not ready, you aren't.

It is one of those things that should trigger alarm bells when you start thinking there is a possibility. When that happens.. It means you aren't ready

[Dazzerg]

Well it certainly seems to me that neither of you have much closure on this relationship at all. Seems to me its possible that your feelings for each other are very much alive and kicking, more the problem seems to be individual complexs on both your parts.

 

To be honest these things are usually hard when you both have personal issues obstructing the way you feel about each other. When one partner has issues then its usually possible for one to take the strain and help the other but if you both have them it can be a horribly confusing mess.

 

Yes you both do need to work through your own issues separately but that can also be done within the context of helping each other. I think the lack of closure here really comes from the fact that as people, free of any issues, your feelings for each other are still the same.