Off topic?

[billuser]

Hello.

 

I know that this is not the correct topic, but I don't know where else

to put it.

 

introduction :

So, here it goes, I am 27, fat, ugly, never had a gf, one more thing, I

am not ubly because I am fat, I have a truly ugly face, I think that even

if I get rid of some weight, then I will be even uglier. I am insecure and in

general, I have many other phsycological problems.

 

I know it is pathetic, but hey, that is life (PLEASE don't start with some

advices that anyone can give like "lose some weight" or "have confidence"

or anything like that).

 

So, now, to the point. I got a new job 3 months ago. There is one man,

he is responsible for our training (the new employers) in the company and

he is a great person (I am not gay), I just like him, but when we are talking

I see that he is looking at my face (his pupils are all over my face )and his

eyes pupils are very very small. He is not gay too, I can surely tell that,

but why a man is looking at me that way?

 

I know that women unconsiosly judge men from their looks, for example,

if a man is handsome, a woman will be friendlier to him (of course, this

goes beyond only looks, but looks is the first stage), but I had no idea

that some men also do that. I would hate to know that my trainer feels

sorry about me or thinks that "hey, he is really ugly".

 

What should I do? I know there are not many things I can do, but how

can I change his mind about me?

 

Thanks.

[Dako]

Maybe he looks at everyone that way.

How truly ugly are you on a scale of 1 to 10?

I have a friend who's a solid 8 and he's very successful with work and cute women. After a while, I seldom think about his looks because of his personality and confidence. I know that sounds trite, but he's really an eyesore!

 

Of couse I don't really believe you're ugly, but I'll take your word for it.

I've spent most of my life feeling I was hideous.

[LostInMyThoughts]

Well, how do you know he thinks you're ugly?

 

Yes men judge other men, we do it.

 

I have a friend who's a solid 8 and he's very successful with work and cute women. After a while, I seldom think about his looks because of his personality and confidence. I know that sounds trite, but he's really an eyesore!

 

Dako, if your friend is an 8, how is he an eye-sore?

[Dako]

An 8 on the ugly scale. He could be a character actor in horror films.

 

The official newly-minted Dako Ugly scale,

Keith Richards would be a 1

John Merrick, the Elephant Man, would be a perfect 10

[LostInMyThoughts]

An 8 on the ugly scale. He could be a character actor in horror films.

 

LOL!

 

I thought you meant the good looks scale.

 

I was like, damn, I'm an 8-9, and if 8 is an eye-sore, well I better just invest in a life-time of vaseline.

[coollady1957]

I think he meant on the ugly scale that his friend is an 8 which means is close to darn ugly.

 

LOL I am gonna have to start typing faster. By the time I type my replies and send it , there are about three or four that pop up before I get it done. I think I have to much distraction around me to be timely with my replies.

[CarnelianButterfly]

An 8 on the ugly scale. He could be a character actor in horror films.

 

The official newly-minted Dako Ugly scale,

Keith Richards would be a 1

John Merrick, the Elephant Man, would be a perfect 10

 

Keith Richards is just ugly, John Merrick had a debilitating disease that I don't think should have him on the scale. Had he been born in the last 20 years, his deformations could have been corrected or alleviated.

[billuser]

OK, I am very ugly but this is not to discuss now, my personality

and confidence sucks, so,

 

bad looks + not mental charismas + luck of confidence = * * * *,

 

BUT, I never had such problems with my frineds, or with others,

 

I know he thinks that way because he has very small eye pupils,

when his eyes are upon some girls we have at work, his pupils are

getting bigger (like mine I guess).

 

But I don't want to be judged from men that way. I think he is

feeling sorry for me and that way, I also feel sorry for mysel, you

know, a looser in girls allmost everywhere is equal to looser in total.

 

* * * *! I don't want more phsycological problems right now.. I had

enough so far...

[billuser]

LOL. OK, I just read what I wrote, I think that the last sentence does

not make sense (sorry for my bad english), I meant that

 

if one is a looser in girls, you know, never had a gf, stil a virgin etc...

then, this person is considered from everyone to be a looser in

every other aspect of life.

 

That's is

[Dako]

Keith Richards is just ugly, John Merrick had a debilitating disease that I don't think should have him on the scale. Had he been born in the last 20 years, his deformations could have been corrected or alleviated.

 

I was groping for a familiar reference there.

Any suggestions for a 10?

 

I suppose this guy has some reaction to you, but it might be for some other reason. Sometimes the chemistry between people is a bigger factor than appearance.

 

I always thought calling another guy ugly was a friendly way to communicate. At least my friends tell me that.

[CarnelianButterfly]

I was groping for a familiar reference there.

Any suggestions for a 10?

An orc from the Lord of the Rings?

[Dako]

Fair enough, but I had to look up that reference.

[LostInMyThoughts]

LOL. OK, I just read what I wrote, I think that the last sentence does

not make sense (sorry for my bad english), I meant that

 

if one is a looser in girls, you know, never had a gf, stil a virgin etc...

then, this person is considered from everyone to be a looser in

every other aspect of life.

 

That's is

 

I don' think thats true.

 

And guys pupils get wider when the look at women they're attracted to, its subconsious. Just because it doesnt happen when he looks at you, doesn't mean anything.

 

It's like, when I see a naked women, I might pop a woodrow-wilson. When I see a naked man (I see naked men all the time, just before you ask RayKay... ), I don't get aroused. Does that mean I think the naked man is ugly or w/e? No, its just a physiological response to sexual attraction.

 

And even if he didn't find you attractive? So what. That's not going to affect your job performance is it?

[Dako]

Lost,

 

Good points! I had a guy looking at me too closely just last week.

I didn't stick around to measure his pupils, though!

[puppylove]

I'm not a very chatty person often I notice myself staring at peoples faces,as I'm always fascinated with shapes of eyes and every feature of a persons face, maybe its because I used to draw people.

I'm sure that guy will stop staring, perhaps you remind him of someone.

[Daddy Bear]

The official newly-minted Dako Ugly scale,

Keith Richards would be a 1

John Merrick, the Elephant Man, would be a perfect 10

first Tourette's, and now he goes after the Elephant People.

 

tusk, tusk, tusk.

 

and at the same time he compliments Keith Richards' looks by placing him below Merrick on the scale.

 

Dako has sunk to a new low.