Can the so-called 'spark' be one sided?

[Princess18]

Just a question- you know when you feel that spark with a person and you have a superb chemistry- can it all be in your head/one sided? I find it hard to believe the other person can't feel it too when its so obvious between you both....

 

Just asking cos i'm feeling it with someone...and want to know if it's in my head that he feels the same..

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

I do understand what you're saying, and I've been there too, probably on both sides of it. But I think all you can do is let them make their own choices. If they don't want to act, then I guess there is a reason for it.

[Daddy Bear]

sure, it can be one-sided. but why do you wonder this about him? if you think somebody has it, he probably does.

[annie24]

oh yeah, it can be one-sided. (And in my experience, it usually is one-sided!)

[mmmending]

...Just asking cos i'm feeling it with someone...and want to know if it's in my head that he feels the same..

create an opportunity in which to find out, let things develop, ask him.. then you'll know..

 

if you find it is one-sided, then this situation may serve as information for you in the future..

 

if you discover it is mutual, then this will affirm trust in your instincts/intuition -and- will be the pathway to a hopefully loving adventure..

 

good luck

[shes2smart]

oh yeah, it can be one-sided. (And in my experience, it usually is one-sided!)

 

Same here.

 

It was double-embarrassing the time I had that insane crush on a guy...and later found out he was gay and very closeted about it.

[iamteddybearfeelmecuddle]

I've recently had a similar circumstance, with thinking there was a spark, but I guess it was just me. But what can one do? Not much I guess.