He dumped me and we weren't even a couple!

[Princesslala]

Hey Guys,

 

It will help if you read my previous post (only a short one...promise)

 

Anyhu, this guy who i previously posted about we have become more and more serious, spending lots of time together and even booking a holiday abroad and him still wanting me to go to his parents house to met them.

Then late last night , we were just lay cuddling in bed, i had my head on his arm and he was playing with my hair....and being the idiot that i am i said "what u thinking bout" and he said " i should really get myself a g/f" i laughed ...silly me i thought he was joking ....i said "aren't i good enough for u then" and he said "don't get me wrong your a great friend and we have fun together but we're not in love are we?" i said ..."well no, but do u expect to be in love after 6 weeks?" he said, "well yes hopefully when i meet the right person".

I lay there completely in shock for a few minutes, then said "i hope you find what your looking for" and left, no tears no scene...quite proud of myself in that way.

I just feel so hurt and so so stupid...i know its all my fault... i know i made it into something it wasn't and i know its just been a steep learning curve for me ...but why does it hurt so much?

 

Lala

 

xxxxxxxxx

[annie24]

Hi - Oh, I'm sorry. That must have really hurt to hear. No wonder you're in pain!

 

I agree with you, I don't think that you could be "in love" after 6 weeks. Infatuation, yes. Love? no. Love takes time.

 

It seemed from your first post that he wasn't sure about a relationship then either.

 

I'm sorry - I hope you move on and put this incident in the past quickly.

 

good luck

[justpaisley]

This guy is so out of touch with reality... Why would he say that to someone like you? Why would anyone say that to someone they're cuddling with?

 

Good for you for walking out. Don't look back! He's not worth it. Move on to someone with whom you're on the same page. Good luck!

[annie24]

Oh yeah, and I'm very proud of your response too! That was absolutely perfect and classy. He is the one who is out of touch with reality!

[Bethany]

I don't think that this is all your own fault. Laying in bed with a man while he strokes your hair would leave anyone thinking that they cared for you.That was so wrong of him.Hold out and be strong, don't ever let him use you again.

 

Learn from your mistakes, from now on and ask early in the relationship where you both see this going. And if you get one inkling that it's down this road again, take another road and find someone to love you not use you.

 

What a creep to do that to you, to anyone. Be glad you asked that question and you're done with being used.

[Princesslala]

Thanks for your kind words guys! I feel much stronger now, i am hurt and i do miss him already (sad) but there is noway in hell i'm going back to him. Maybe he is a nice guy and mayb on some levels i knew he didn't want me, but i also know i didn't deserve to be treated like that, i'm a strong sexy single woman now and no creep is gunna get me down again, i'm gunna give myself some time alone for the next few days, long hot baths and girly music...then by the weekend i'll be ready to fight the world again. My mistakes make me strong, and your words make me glow...thank you again ...you are all angels xxxx

[BlueFlowerOnMyDesk]

Ur in inspiration! xxxx good luck hun!