Am I playing this out right?

[Montrell274]

I wanted to see if I am doing this right. I've been liking this girl for quite a while (a few months). During this time, I kinda play it cool, calling here and there, a few dates, etc. I think I wanna step up, but I'm also trying to play on how she responds to me. The catch is I only feel that typical 'friend' vibe from her. She's very shy and I don't just want to blurt out my feelings without some way of knowing hers. So I don't want to stick my head out without knowing that I can easily pull it back in.

[fishrrshortae]

PLEASE FOR THE LOVE OF GOD

put yourself out there

 

I am dating a guy right now, and I'm having this problem with him and it SUCKS.

take initiative, just ask her out to lunch or something, show interest in spending time with her

 

for my sake and hers

[hk87]

Fish- thank you so much for saying that. The lack of people acting on their feelings has been really getting to me recently!

 

Hk87

[Montrell274]

Ok, so I stepped it up. It has been a few weeks since I told her that I really like her and I would be happy to pursue a relationship with her. We hang out a lot, but the only thing I'm scared of is being clingy and/or boring.

[fishrrshortae]

You don't have to be boring, even when you're doing the typical. Bring her a flower when you go hang out, or just tell her that you were thinking about her some time in the day. There are soooooooooooo many little things that make it easy to show how much you want to be with her, be creative.

[Montrell274]

Now the main question: what about valentine's day? I don't think I should really do anything TOO huge since she's not exactly my girlfriend. and her birthday is also a week away. I don't know if I should be over the top or what.