I Hate Myspace!!!!!!!

[still_learning]

I would have to agree with Caterina. I believe that people should take responsibility for their actions. It seems to me that what she wanted was a bit of freedom and a bit of fun and you didn't like that. Myspace is a good site, if the intentions are good. If you couldn't even see eye to eye about this simple site, than be thankful that you didn't go any furthur than you had to.

[serenity25]

I agree with the previous posters.... stop blaming myspace. If anything, myspace is just helping you to see who you should really trust and who you shouldn't. If they are the type to continue trying to hookup with people via the internet while they are in a relationship, they would be doing the exact same thing with or without myspace. However now you have evidence of their trickery and can save yourself some future pain by calling her out now.

 

My boyfriend and I each have myspace accounts, although they are private. We use it to keep in touch with friends and networking purposes. Anyone who is truly into you and worth your time will make their status known on their profile and not keep around any "friends" with bad intentions.

[x_OhSoTragic]

Yeahh, I've had some ups and downs with myspace vs. relationships too.

But making her choose between you and her friends was definitely wrong. thats about the numero uno thing you should NEVER do. because then she will have no sense of reedom or independance if you're always behind her shoulder tellingher what to do, who to talk to, it's like you're being her parent. And believe me, no one needs any more parenting than they have.

[x_OhSoTragic]

Yeahh, I've had some ups and downs with myspace vs. relationships too.

But making her choose between you and her friends was definitely wrong. thats about the numero uno thing you should NEVER do. because then she will have no sense of freedom or independance if you're always behind her shoulder telling her what to do, who to talk to, it's like you're being her parent. And believe me, no one needs any more parenting than they have.

[angyshere]

I found a place that has the same perks as myspace. Looks like myspace. But is way better. It is free to Join and they pay you to play and click around unlike myspace.

 

yuwie dot com/yuwie.asp?r=4265

[catbrooke78]

yeah i can relate because my boyfriend was talking to girls on myspace about meeting up for casual sex. However, I dont think its the website itself, its how the person deals with the opportunity.

For example, I would never cheat, so I would never do that with myspace. People who are cheaters WOULD because they can, and its private.

[ghost69]

i just read the title. AMEN

[KrisAnn]

Yeah, it's kind of lame to blame cheating SO's on myspace or any other site like it. Myspace doesn't MAKE you do anything. People who place blame for ended relationships are completely ridiculous, IMO. Ridiculous.

 

Also ridiculous that the OP deleted the original post.

[Sketch]

Myspace doesn't MAKE you do anything. People who place blame for ended relationships are completely ridiculous, IMO. Ridiculous.

 

No, mysapce does not make you do anything, but it can influence what someone does. It is unlikely that myspace is the direct cause of breakups, but it is not conducive to a healthy relationship with someone either.

I wouldn't be okay with my partner going out to clubs and talking to single strangers that are clearly interested in her just as I am not okay with her going online to a site used predominantly for single people to "hook up".

 

People become more inclined to make bad choices and mistakes if the opportunity presents itself.

 

Ex#1: Most people would not go out of their way to rob a convenient store, but if they walked into a AM PM at 4:00am, the cash register was open with several hundred dollars visible, there was no clerk behind the counter, and there was no customers in the store...they might grab the cash and walk away.

Ex#2: A recovering alcoholic may be strong enough to avoid going to the store and purchasing liquor to get drunk alone, but if their friends invite them to a bar and they are all drinking, the recovering alcoholic may have a drink...or 5.

Ex#3: Most females in a relationship probably will not go out of their way to develop personal relationships with multiple men in real life, but on myspace where you have strange men eagerly coming to you, flirting with you, and you can claim that they are "just friends". It becomes much easier to make a bad decision.

 

Also, someone may compromise their better moral judgement, in the heat of the moment, because something is new and exciting, because it feels good, because they are intoxicated, etc.

 

Some people will agrue that these feelings stem from insecurity and if you can't trust your partner than you shouldn't be with them in the first place. I disagree.

Guys in general are looking to hookup. A female going on myspace is like pouring blood in the water that you know has sharks in it. You know that countless guys are going to be hitting on her and females tend to buy into how guys treat them in those first several months. They believe that "this guy" is special and is so much more sweet, compassionate, and thoughtful than their current boyfriend. However, everyhting the guy says and does is a game and it will only continue as long as he is having fun or until he is bored and wants to move on to the next girl.

 

 

I think it's funny how many people say they use myspace to, "stay in touch with old friends." Of course, if you ask them why they can't keep in touch with those friends via: email, phone calls, text messages,...or visiting them in person from time to time, the answer is usually some nonsense about how myspace is easier or better. It's easier for random people to contact them and for them to lie to themselves that they have 947 "friends", because they love all the attention they get on myspace. It's an ego boost and may become a way to gain enough self confidence to leave their partner.

 

Is the ego boost what they are really after or are they just unhappy with the current state of their relationship? Is a new relationship the answer or are they merely going through a rough patch, but love their current partner and need to invest more time working on their relationship instead of posting new pics on their myspace account? I don't know, but it seems that most people choose the easy way, the path of least resistance, the decision that brings immediate gratification...and they end up regretting that choice.

 

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is the right thing. Relationships take hard work and sacrifice.

[imjthm]

The girl I am dating has myspace and we had many fights about it because she was getting messages from her guy friends that they wanted to bang her. We broke up and she started seeing some other guy she met through a friend. We ended up getting back together and I checked her myspace friends list and the guy she was dating is still on her friends list. Should I be pissed off at that or should I let it go.

[Killasasparilla]

Join the club my friend.

[Cerebellocruciatus]

My question is what took you 4 1/2 years to say it?

[Censored]

I hate facebook. Creepy stuff it is. creeeeeeeepy.