I Think I Messed Up A Great Friendship Please Help!!!

[ElektraHere]

Hello,

 

ok here is my story. I met this wonderful guy we met through another person online. Anyways we talked occasionally at first you know a hello whenever we saw each other online. Well then it progressed where we were talking to each other on a daily basis and then we started talking on the phone on a daily basis. He even is planning to come out to where I live to see the sights and to meet me (that is if I didn't mess it up too much)

 

He is not my boyfriend although I have told him I like him and when he comes out I hope we connect as well as we do on the phone and computer.

 

Now the trouble....

Yesterday I saw him online briefly but he was going out the door and said he would call me in a few hours. I knew he had things to do and he probably wouldnt call me until the evening. That was fine... I was online emailing someone and I saw his name it said he was now offline. I was shocked I didnt even see him get online. So I called him at his house and it went to voicemail.. I was so stoked that he was home and we could talk that I left I dont know how many voicemails and called tooo many times.. He never did answer my calls that night.

 

I feel just horrible I have emailed my apologies and left a vmail stating how foolish I was and how truly sorry and crappy I feel about panicking.I just wish it wouldnt of happened the rational side said he was probably not in the mood to talk however my panic mode got into gear. I havent heard anything back on my emails and I hope he still plans on coming out next month. What should I do??? Should I stop trying to get a hold of him? I just want to remedy this situation I have gummed up so well?

 

I want him to know that it was a lapse in judgement on my part and that I truly value our friendship and I value him.

 

Can anyone offer any advice on what I should or shouldnt do?

 

Thanks a whole bunch,

Elektra

[AllieCatOf2]

hold off on the contact until he replies to either your e-mails or others. You dont want to come on too strong, it may scare him. give him some time. You may find that you did all this worrying for nothing.

[Relationship Coach]

Elektra,

 

He may be getting cold feet or maybe he is playing the field and was afraid to tell you. Don't read too much in to it until you see if you guys click when you do meet. What happens prior to that really shouldn't matter, it's going forward once you've deciede to commit to a relationship. Back off a little and see how he reacts to your actions.

[Bethany]

The first thing you do is calm down. Ok you lost if for a while but you've mailed your apology for that and said your peace now sit back and wait for him to respond. If he cares, he'll be back. So just be ready and stay calm.

[darkblue]

hold off on the contact until he replies to either your e-mails or others. You dont want to come on too strong, it may scare him. give him some time. You may find that you did all this worrying for nothing.

Agreed, and with Bethany.

 

Give him some time.

[ElektraHere]

Thanks! I am a worry wart by natue and he knows this so perhaps he will chalk it up to that. I hope as AllieCat said I may be worrying over nothing. I just really dont want to lose this friendship.