Why Do Men Go Back to Their EX's?

[Bams]

Lonelyfish

 

Well to answer your question. it has been 6 months and I do still miss him. However, during that time I have dated and allowed myself to meet someone new if they come into my life, but deep down I know what I had with my EX BF, it was something very different and so for that reason I think in the end he and I may have a chance.

 

As for an update, I decided to call him yesterday, because in July when we last spoke he asked if he could call again and I told him if I wanted to talk that I would call him. I didn't want to be caught off guard and since that time he has respected my wishes and not called. So, I figured that enough time has passed and I am not as hurt as I once was and so now I think I am ready to talk again. As for my phone call, he didn't answer, however he was at work at the time (He's a Firefighter) so, I left him a brief message that was nice, but not emotional. As I said before I am hoping that the door has been once again opened and since my birthday is on Sunday that would be a good opportunity to call, so I am waiting and hoping I will hear from him this weekend.

 

Bams

[Bams]

Well, as for an update, my Ex did call. He said that there are reminders of me everywhere and so how could he forget me. I also asked him if he still loved me, I know risky, however he said how could he not love me. I don't think we are going to get back together anytime soon, he has a lot on his plate and I don't think he has time for me, but it does open things up for the future. As for now I just hope we can occasionally date and enjoy each others company, then when he is completely divorce who knows maybe it could work out next time around.

 

Bams

[lonelyfish]

Bams,

 

Let us know how things go with your ex. When will his divorce be finalized? As for me I'm still wating to hear from my ex through email. I had told him I needed time and just said to email me once he moved into his place. A mutual friend of ours told me he still has not set up an email account yet but that he was planning on emailing me after he does. I know he's busy and not home much but haven't talked to him besides a silly text message in over a month and 1/2. It's just agonizing waiting to here from him. Every now and then I get the urge to call but I come here and read all the posts and know better not to. I'm doing OK but there's just some lonely times that really get to me! Sometimes I just wonder if I just called him if it would help break the ice - since he was previously married it's not like he's dealt with many breakups.

[Jessica45]

I think guys go back to their ex's because it takes time to get over someone, you can't just all of a sudden not feel for someone anymore, Maybe they feel comfortable around their ex's because maybe he wants to show her that he's got someone else now. I don't know what perent.

[Bams]

Lonelyfish,

 

Don't call, give him time, because I truly believe that if someone loves you they will come back. However, I do have to tell you that on rare occasions I would find a need to email my Ex, because we had been living together and so I would come accross an issue that I needed to discuss with him. So, when that occurred I would email (not call) and I would always end the email with something sweet and kind, but simple.

 

Goodluck, I know its hard waiting, but if he really truly loves you he will be back and if he doesn't then in the long run you are probably better off.

 

Bams