I must be a bit slow!

[LadyV]

This'll sound pretty strange but i'm new to the dating world & haven't got a clue what to make of it/do, so i guess i'm looking for advice. I'm 26 & whilst i've been in 2 LT relationships (both 4+ years), i've never done the dating thing before.

 

To cut a long story short, i met someone at the start of September, we emailed lots, i met him for the first time at the end of the month & since then we've seen quite alot of each other. We went out on Saturday & had a great night but didn't know what to make of something he said. In the middle of the night he said 'What's happening?' & when i said 'What's happening with what?' (i'd had a few drinks), he said 'With us - are we seeing each other?' I said 'Yes, i think so' but what does that mean in a bloke's world?

 

Any thoughts would be good - thanks

[dreamy333]

ask... ask.. ask... him.. bc i have no idea

[DN]

In my world, it would mean "are we boyfriend/girlfriend and are we exclusive?"

[LadyV]

I'm seeing him tomorrow night & whilst i want to ask, its tricky as i don't want to push the subject & send him running!

[DN]

Just ask him what he mean the other night. Say it in a lighthearted tone

[LadyV]

Thanks for that DN. That's what i thought but i don't want to presume. I guess i didn't expect him to say it & that's what shocked me. He's great & i'd love to do the exclusive thing but think i'd better ask to be sure. Do you think it's a good idea or should i keep my mouth shut?

[DN]

He did say it and it seems to me reasonable to ask him what he meant. It doesn't have to turn into a big 'relationship discussion' but if it does that's ok too.

 

As I said keep it lighthearted, even casual. Just ask the question and wait for a reply. Wait as long as it takes for him to answer and don't ask it in another way or feel the need to embroider it.

 

Ask and wait.

[LadyV]

I'm hoping i won't need to say anything & that he'll mention it but if not, i'll follow your advice - ask & wait.

 

Thanks again DN. The comments on here helped me with my last relationship (long & complicated story) & i'm hoping they'll set me in the right direction in the 'dating world.'

[volution]

In my world, it would mean "are we boyfriend/girlfriend and are we exclusive?"

 

LOL - for most men read: "Are we going to have sex tonight?".

[DN]

In my world, it would mean "are we boyfriend/girlfriend and are we exclusive?"

 

LOL - for most men read: "Are we going to have sex tonight?".

 

she said it was the middle of the night - they probably already had!

[darkblue]

"are we seeing eachother?", rephrased - "are we dating?"

 

That's my interpretation anyway.

And even if it's what he meant, it'd be best to bring it up again as he was drinking.

 

Do it without the drink this time

[LadyV]

Thanks Volution, another view was good to hear as i need all the help i can get.

 

And no DN, we didn't have a s***, so if that's what the 'Are we seeing each other?' was for, it wasn't answered in the way it might've been!

 

Darkblue - we're off out tomorrow & neither of us are drinking (i'm driving & he's off to work later) so i might ask.

 

'Dating' is confusing but fun so i don't care.

[darkblue]

Lol - good attitude to hold.

 

Good luck.