Im 21 & like a lad whos 17! Views?

[laura_5000]

Im a 21 year old femal who has fallen for a 17 year old , who I think feels the same.

Is this wrong because of his age?

I really dont know what to do.

[DiscipleOfChange]

I suppose it really depends on where you live. Arguably, love shouldn't make a difference when it comes to age, however, some cultures frown upon relationships between minors and non-minors especially when the age gap is 4 years or so. The other complication could be that if he is still in high school and you university and both of you are about to graduate from school, then the issue becomes how do you two live your academic lives and combine that with your relationship.

 

~Mark

[laura_5000]

I suppose it really depends on where you live. Arguably, love shouldn't make a difference when it comes to age, however, some cultures frown upon relationships between minors and non-minors especially when the age gap is 4 years or so. The other complication could be that if he is still in high school and you university and both of you are about to graduate from school, then the issue becomes how do you two live your academic lives and combine that with your relationship.

 

~Mark

 

I live in England!

He is not in school he works full time, I however am at university.

I dont think there would be a problem with seeing each other. Just worried that 17 might be a bit young.

[DiscipleOfChange]

In that case, I don't see anything inherently wrong with it. I mean, 17 is young, in a sense but if you both are interested in developing a relationship you should go for it.

 

~Mark

[Aueft]

I don't see anything wrong with it. And if it's long term, it will matter less and less as time goes by.

[highonyou]

i dont see any problem dear, as soon as he hits 18 no one will care either

[laura_5000]

seems as though everyone thinks that its not too bad.

As soon as he turns 18 (april) it will change anyway.

Ill have to see what happens now.

Thanks for eveyones views...

 

Any more views? Feel free to post.

Need all the help I can get. lol

[xblondiex518]

I once had a guy friend who was really in love, he was 21 and the girl was sixteen, they gave each other promise rings and everything. Her parents hated the idea that he was 21 and she was only 16, they did not let her see him or anthing. I remember their relationship was probally more mature then anyone's i had know, even including my own parents. I remember times when we'd be at parties, and he would just be on the phone with her the whole time. Everyone could tell they were in love, thats what made everyone respect their relationship, because they were so mature about it everyone kind of forgot about the age differnece. Still til this day the two of them are still together. Age is only a number. Why is it a man, being 40, who is dating a 20yr old not a big deal, which is a 20yr difference, but yet a 4yr differnce is a bigger deal, go for it, and think in a matter of no time he'll be 18.

[melstapurple]

i think you should go for it in fact im in the same boat his 17 and im 21 but where crazy about each other if it wasnt for the distance factor we would be going for it, if you both dont care about age then thats great!!!!

[laura_5000]

Im a 21 year old femal who has fallen for a 17 year old , who I think feels the same.

Is this wrong because of his age?

I really dont know what to do.

 

Well it didn't work out in the end, I think the age gap showed and he was to imature. I'm glad in a way that I went for it as I have learned from my mistakes.

[yeawutever]

Yea, some people are mature and some aren't. Try looking for college guys.