crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 I'm not sure what to do. I'm new back on the dating scene after being divorced for about 3 years. Been cleaning up the emotional baggage. It's been such a long time since I have been on the dating scene, I am quite rusty on how to play that dating game. I was matched by a matchmaking agency with a guy. I called hm and we went out on a few dates, and had a good time. We would talk on the phone (Al though I would admit that I was dong more of the calling) but all of a sudden the calls just stopped. We had made plans to go out and do something else, but I was sick and had to cancel. I haven't heard from him since. I am not sure what is going on. Was I too eager to have this arrangement to turn into something more? I admit that I really didnt know this person, yet everyone that I ask says to just forget about him. If he was truly interested, he would have called by now. It's been a week or so. I don't want to be the one that comes accross as being too needy.. What would you do in this situation? Is it wrong for me to go into each potential dating as a possibility for romance or even marriage? I mean, I havent really dated much to begin with and even though I didnt really date this person for a while I am still disappointed. any advice? Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Hi Crinklecat, how you doin? Welcome to eNotalone.com. 1) Maybe the man take your sickness as an excuses and think you didn't want to see him. Just call him back to clarify the things. And its not about bein' too needy ;P 2) And dating is nothing wrong as far as I know, but a good thing look forward what you want. Accomplish your goals, dreams... don' bother only dating. I wish you good luck peace Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 I guess I feel kind of uncomfortable calling him. My last conversation with him was ok, I just told him that I was sick and that i couldnt go, he mentioned that he had gotten sick also. We chatted for a brief while and then he told me that he had to go and he would talk to me later. I still havent heard from him yet. I think that is the reason why I was worried about calling him too much. I don't want to over-pursue... you know? Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 I understand how you feel, you have his mail or email ? just write something down about what you feel and what is the situation on your side! Let the thing go on his own you can't do much about it. Trust me with this peace Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 thanks for your help, I really appreciate it. That's kind of what I have been doing seeing as I was too sick to go out and do anything. The last guy I dated, I was pursuing too much and it didn't work out. I think I pursue emotionally unavailable men. I guess it's disappointing that you want something to work out. It's been a tough time since I got divorced. I'm paranoid about chasing a potential partner away because I am eager. Lets just say that I don't play that dating game they say to play so well. To be honest I don't really know how I feel about him. It was nice to have a guy to talk to, i dunno I am just so confused. I just dont want to do the wrong thing. Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 You seemed great, why don't you just chill and relax ! I know how hard it is when you want to chase your loneliness. But well I understand that you don't have to let your emotions controll your life cause if you do, it's all about up and down. If you want to talk you can pm me or I have msn and aim as well. peace Link to comment
doblersdream Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Hi Crinklecat. I think I know where you're coming from. I too have been married and since then have been the needy one in every relationship since. It must be some deep-rooted psychological fear of another failed relationship that causes 'us' to constantly try too hard. I know it's hard (from experience) but we've gotta learn to value ourselves again and not place such importance in being in a relationship. If you need to chat more, add me to your msn list. Take care. Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Hey pHiL its your new tactics just teasing you bro peace Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 I dunno maybe i should go with the flow. you guys are guys. I mean if he hasnt called in a week doesnt seem like he's too interested, right? Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Well, its really rare that I call ( its not that I like to make the girl worried well yeah I like that but thats not the point) But maybe hes waiting, a good thing is to chat with some other peeps, hang out with friends. Chill out, dance, go to the casino. Have some fun ! I'll die because I have too much fun peace miss Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 I dunno, I hate dating. my friends thnk he got what he wanted so he's not interested in the chase, Gosh, why doesnt someone chase me? Crinkle=Serial man chaser Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Yeah why don't you like dating? You think you lost the twist??? Dating is like bicycling once you get back on the seat just go straight and if you fall thats all good... just step back on your two feets. im sure you'll find some good men peace Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 the last time I did what you could consider dating was a long time ago. I dont think that I even went on what i could consider actually a date. Most of my time with men was spent just hanging out as a group, kinda like the college type thing.... I ended up meeting my ex because we hung out in the same group so i couldnt say we actially dated as a couple per se, only after we were classified as bf/gf I really dont know what ot expect of dating. Am I setting myself up for a lot of potential heartache if i have a goal out of my dating? Am I go8in g about this in the wrong way? Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 Yeah I think you take the "dating drama" too much seriously. Dating is about havin' fun, getting along with friends you see. Dating is all about havin' fun just be chilled and relax for once. Forget all about love, life and family. Live for your own, HAVE FUN !!! peace Link to comment
crinklecat Posted June 23, 2003 Author Share Posted June 23, 2003 yeah I know I should. I've got to keep remindimg mysefl that this is for fun, not for an interview for a potential husband! LOL As you probably already can tell, I am a type A personality. Link to comment
dextro Posted June 23, 2003 Share Posted June 23, 2003 That's all cool I ain't judging you im the type R personality. Partyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy !!!!!!!!!!! ( and all that come with it) You will find someone that suit yourself I promise Link to comment
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