talking to g/f's parents.... HELP!!!

[amour_13]

So my g/f parents do not allow her to talk to me... although they do not know about our relationship together. I have finally decided that I am going to walk up to their door, knock, and speak with them. I do not want them to think that she was involved bc they told her to stop talking to me in... may.

I just wanted to know what you guys thought about this idea and what im going to say... i have no other ppl i can ask... any help is appreciated.

 

Heres what i plan to say:

 

I know that you dont agree with Megan talking to me and I repsect that. Id like to take you to dinner or something to give us a chance to talk. It would give you us a chance to get to know each other and hopefully you can get past w/e it is that you dont like about me. I will answer anything you want to know. I just want a chance to earn your respect so that maybe you could allow Megan to talk to me... Idk what I did... but I miss her friendship. Shes an awesome person and a great friend.

 

Something along that lines... what do you think???

[misery12]

I am sort of confused..

Is she your girlfriend, or just your friend?

Also, did Megan ever tell you why they don't want her talking to you?

[amour_13]

misery12,

She is my g/f... but her parents do not know this. They would not tell her... we assume that it is b/c i use to cut... and that i never really talked to them much.. bc i felt weird... the looks they gave me... it might also be that once she told them we kissed but it freaked us out... but idk if i knew that ... i might be able to fix it or soemthing.

[Hope75]

Well, it seems that the approach you are using is direct, honest and upfront, and it can't hurt to give it a try.

 

Just be aware that your gf's parents may not be receptive to listening to what you have to say, and there is a possibility that no matter how open and polite you are, they will still feel the same way, and not want you in their daughter's life.

 

I commend your desire to confront them directly in a non threatening way and make yourself available to talk, and I think if there is any way that they are going to accept you in her life, this may be the only way that can happen.

 

Best of luck.

[amour_13]

so if they reject me what do i do? just say ok... and continue seeing her behind their back... bc i wont lose her friendship. but at the same time... i dont want to cause anymore problems than i already have. is there anything else i could do to change their minds?

[Mr. B]

Your idea is certainly noble... although you're gonna need to know what to say in the event your visit doesn't win them over.