dancingmsg Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 alright, i have to confess that i am not that romantic to come up this idea. I read this rose thing from an online post. Not so sure it will be very comfortable for the girls, especially if for you two just go out with the intention just get to know each better. so i guess that my question is - for girls, do you really like this idea? - for guys, how many of you actually does this? Link to comment
Mysterious Gurl Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 yeah! I would it's a really nice jesture. your making the girl feel special for givng her a rose! miya Link to comment
dancingmsg Posted June 23, 2005 Author Share Posted June 23, 2005 oh, yeah, so it is definitely yes to you. i guess that i am really a shy guy can not wait to see other people's answer Link to comment
Lonelyinasmalltown Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 It all really depends on the person you're giving the rose too. She could see it as very sweet or very needy. I've had both reactions in the past so now I just play it safe and don't bring flowers on the first date. I save stuff like that for the next date if things go well. That way since she knows a little more about me, she sees that I'm not needy at all, I'm just trying to be sweet. Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 It all really depends on the person you're giving the rose too. She could see it as very sweet or very needy. I've had both reactions in the past so now I just play it safe and don't bring flowers on the first date. I save stuff like that for the next date if things go well. That way since she knows a little more about me, she sees that I'm not needy at all, I'm just trying to be sweet. He really hit the nail on the head with this post. If I were you, I would see how the first date goes, and then bring a rose on the second date. Link to comment
Mysterious Gurl Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 well you seem like a really nice guy. Its alright to be shy just be yourself and the rose i think is a great idea miya Link to comment
Nkaleidoscopic Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 If you hardly knew her, and this was the date to actually get to know her, then it would seem kinda needy. But if you've known her before, and you guys are pretty well connected, then I think it's really cute. Link to comment
bathroomslipper Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 yeah buddy, it'd be a great idea... that girl will remember this day forever i think as everyone is saying the positives side, let me take the opposite side for a while. i may warn u with some possibilities. you didnt mention how do u met ur girl. if it is a blind date. plz dont do that. coz, if u r being freaked out by seeing her, u kno what u r gonna do with those roses then. and another thing is, she might not like roses, or she might have alergies with flowers. and there are lot of things u kno... these are just possibilities, and their probability is less than 1% so, dont worry, just follow your heart wish u a successful and kool date buddy cya Link to comment
whatdoyado Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 I love flowers, even though I am allergic, who cares, I would take a flower anyday. Honestly it just depends how well you know her. Make the first date casual, you don't want to work all your nerves up. Maybe on the third date or so a rose would be good, or even a sunflower. But I would refrain from giving any gifts on the first date. Link to comment
kskm Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 I was going to mention that also.. about the type of flower. It is summer time so if or when you give her one it shouldn't be a red rose... a light pink one or a sunflower or lilly is a good idea. Link to comment
dancingmsg Posted June 23, 2005 Author Share Posted June 23, 2005 well, i don't know her that well. only know she is nice, cute. but do feel that i like her a lot (hard to describe, just feel it that way). we worked in the same department but on different floors. hardly see each other. met couple of times in the past two years because of work. email sometime about work. asked her out for a movie 4 months ago and got rejected (did not know she had bf at that time). then told me she broke up with her bf few days ago and asked me to movie. plan to take her to a dinner and then go see the Batman. i don't know what i will do. still thinking and i can tell from people's posts that this is really a individual thing. some people like this idea, some don't. oh, it is hard. good thing is i still got time, date is on tomorrow. so ... btw, would you rather call this a go-out-and-have-fun than a date? Link to comment
Nkaleidoscopic Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 If it's like that then maybe you should save it for the 2nd date. Link to comment
dancingmsg Posted June 23, 2005 Author Share Posted June 23, 2005 i think it is a more like a get-to-know-each-other night, not a date night, what you guys think Link to comment
Cecelius Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 No. Bad, chumpy idea. If she likes you, she likes you already. If she is on the fence, it just looks goofy. Unless you can pull it off with extreme style and make it seem like you give everyone roses. Link to comment
ecg1228 Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 My boyfriend gave me a single rose on our first date a year and a half ago. I have the rose to this day (kept for sentimental reasons). It didn't make him appear needy or corny at all. I thought it was a sweet gesture and it set the tone for the evening - it didn't necessarily pressure the situation into anything more than a "I like you and I want to get to know you" date. But if you want to, wait until the second date - that way it tells her how much you had a great time on the first date... Link to comment
randy Posted June 23, 2005 Share Posted June 23, 2005 If you don' t know her that well then don' t give her a rose on the first date . Save that for the second date if you must do it . . . BUT if you can pull it of and go for the whole chivalrous , gentleman in shining armor then PLEASE GO FOR IT ! ! ! Let us know how it goes ! ! ! Link to comment
heloladies21 Posted June 24, 2005 Share Posted June 24, 2005 Rose on 1st date is way too much too fast. It should be simple like cofee or movie or food at a diner like denny's. Don't go overboard or you might scare her off. Save the romantic stuff for when you get to know each other better. Link to comment
dancingmsg Posted June 24, 2005 Author Share Posted June 24, 2005 thank u all for these great input. will let you know how it goes .... Link to comment
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