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Yeah as the others said pre-cum is filled with sperm. You can pregnant but it's only a small chance but still a significant chance. I know that because I heard it from my GP.

I staying from next Thursday until the Sunday. I'm spending my whole Birthday with my boyfriend. We have plans to head off to the Cinema a couple of times and to go out for a meal. I asked if we could hang out with Luke or a couple of hours on the Saturday if it doesn't colide with us meeting my sister. Then when I asked he went a little cold on me and I could feel him getting annoyed. I understand he feels a little worried but should trust me. The thing is confronting him is hard without an argument at the endof it.

Hey all, I have a long distance relationship with a boy my own age. I live about 300 miles from him, he's from London. He has a friend called Luke who I met first online and we chatted a lot of the time on MSN as friends although Luke fancied me a lot. I met Luke twice before meeting my boyfriend. Anyway on my third visit I met his friend (who is now my current boyfriend) who I hit it off with really well and we ended up going out. My partner knows his friend fancied me from the start. Since I've been going out with my other half he seems keen to keep me away from Luke and all his mates. I don't get why? Does he feel insecure? He keeps worrying about losing me although I have assured him countless times it wont happen. Anyway it's my 18th birthday next Friday so I'm going to visit my boyfriend and I was hoping to maybe hang out with Luke and the others since I never got that opportunity to last time. When I brought it up, he seemed to go quiet and cold on me. I had a bit of a falling out with Luke last weekend and I started calling him a jerk to Dan* and now that I've said I want to see him, he doesn't understand why when I was complaining about him a couple of days ago. I can understand him wanting to keep me to hiself on my birthday which is why I agreed to spend it alone with him, all I asked was, was if I could maybe meet up with Luke and he said "you was complaining about him a couple of days ago and now you want to hang out with him, I don't understand you". I have known Luke longer that Dan and although thats not the point, I would like to see him. He is just a mate. I don't know how to confront him about it without causing an argument. I just want to sometimes see Luke and his mates when I come for a visit. Am I being unreasonable here? If not, how can I resolve it without it becoming an argument? Lost here. Thanks for reading, -Miya-

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She took the morning after pill almost right away? Everything should be fine. It's 90% effective, or so I have read. It's most effective the sooner you take it. You did the right thing from the beginning by using protection. Here is the link which explains more aout th pill. Might but your mind at ease. link removed -Miya-

Don't take this personal, but is that relevent? Only I feel to shy to talk about things like that.

It's like an ache and every now and again I get a very sharp pain that lasts few seconds. I can sometimes feel something happening down there like something moving downwards if that makes sense? Just curious thats all. It's happened all weekend but no sign of a period yet so I was feeling a bit worried. -Miya-

Well I was chatting to my other half on Saturday and he said Jo had, had a better week than normal. Then last night Jo came in absolutely hammered. I know Jo has had it rough lately but it's just going a bit far now. I have tried encouraging him the best I can, but if he wont take any notice I'm not sure what else I can do. I just find it hard to ignore this sort of situation while a friend goes out and drinks himself into a state of depression. I didn't mean to call him an idiot, I'm sorry for that. It's just he really upset me that he wouldn't take any notice of me even though he counts me as a close friend. I'll see how it goes. I just don't know what more I can do really. Thanks Annie, Avman! -Miya-

Hey all, Erm I just noticed over this weekend that I have been experiencing lower stomach aches. It's not a severe pain but it's just an ache I usually feel before a period comes on. The thing is I'm not due on until the 4th, but because of these aches I'm expecting to come on soon. Is it natural to feel aches a week before you're due on? I feel a bit worried thats all. -Miya-

Evening all or morning rather, Erm - I need some advice on how I can help my friend Jo*. He's just signed on MSN absolutely drunk beyond belief. He's the same age as me and everything but he lives about 300 miles away. I know since I've known Jo he's had feelings for me, I don't know about recently as in the past couple of months. Anyway he has been feeling depressed for a good few months about how lousy College is going, that his love life isn't going anyway great ad his parents are on his case about getting a job. I don't know what to do, he seems to think drinking is the solution but it's not! He only thinks it is because it's blocking out reality. I don't know how I can make him think positive about life. I have tried so hard to be there but he's just not listening to me now. He's going out tomorrow to watch the Arsenal final and drink some more. I have asked him as a friend to stop but he refuses point blank because "drink is the only thing making him happy". What should I do? I'm lost and it's going to play on my mind until I know he's alright. He's my boyfriends mate. My boyfriend said he was improving except he has the occasional mood swing at College. I have no idea what to suggest right now. Any help would be much appreciated! -Miya-

Hello all! This is post isn't about me, I'm writing it for my friend. She's 16 years old and goes to my college. She's in a year below me. Anyway this girl Susie* told me on the phone she had sex last Thursday unprotected. However her boyfriend never 'comed' inside her. They were experminting and did it four times. Each time the boy pulled out before he comed, not because he was about to 'come' but just incase. Each time lasted about 3/4 minutes. Anyway she wanted to know if there was a chance she could be pregnant? I don't really know what advice to give her which is why I'm writing this post. Any help would be appreciated, Miya x

Thanks everyone -hugs to all- Her name was Jess and she was a Heinze 57, it's a mixed breed as far as I'm aware. We had her for about a year at least but I wasn't able to keep the puppies beause 4 died of this illness (forgot he name) but it use to mainly affect puppies. I just miss teasing her. Every now and again bought her a Curly Wurly, these chocolate bars but they're a bit chewey. I use to tease her with them and preten to eat it myself and she use to fuss a round my dad so he'd make me give her it in th end. I also miss how she use to wonder off in a morning around the block when we unlocked in a morning. I just feel so guilty fo having her put down. I could see her trembling with fear when we arrived at the Vets so it made me feel really guilty. It's just the way she looked at me when I said goodybye as I left the room, I felt so heartless. I'm finding it increasingly difficult to eat though. I feel starving but I don't feel like eating. I managed to eat some lasagne though but it was a lot of effort to eat. Thanks for the poems. I saved them so I can go back to them. Thanks for the replies all, Miya x

Hello all, I know this isn't the most suitable place for my topic but I just wanted to get what I was feeling off my chest. I'm just grieving over my dog at the moment. I had to have her out down about 4 hours ago due to her kidney failure. It was probably the hardest thing I have ever had to experience in my entire life. I never saw her die but my dad did. I said goodbye to her before and after though. What made it worse was she watched me walk out the Vets office and I literally broke down to my knees when the door closed. I only had her for a year because we took her in from the street. A week after we first got her she had a litter of six. The thing is she was a really old dog so she did well for age. I just feel crushed. I feel so heartless even though it was a case of being cruel to be kind. When I was younger it was obvious that I couldn't go in the Vets office when we took in an animal, so this was my first time. I fee devastated right now. I just wanted to get it off my chest because I feel weirded out right now. It's amazing the bond I had with her now I think about it. Thanks for reading, Miya x

When I'm sressed I usually listen to a song where the lyrics are relivent to my feelings. Also I find doingthings like watching a DVD orgoing jogging helps because you're taking the focus off your stress. Miya x

Hey all, I'm new to the whole relationship/dating thing. I love and trust my boyfriend very much and he loves and trusts me. We talk every single day on MSN, text, phone and we visit each other every other weekend. I'm going to seem him this Friday and returning to my home town on Sunday. The thing is, I don't like it when women talk to him or when his mates come oud with their girlfriends, I get this jealous feeling?? I don't know why though! It's like I'm pretty good friends with his guy mates, we chat on MSN but I feel so jealous when theres other women about, either with my boyfriend or my mates. I feel terrible and I don't know if it's a natural feeling. Can anyone else relate? Or tell me how I can make this feeling go away? I feel really bad. Miya x

I had thought about going to College down there but because I'm 18 I would have to pay for my courses and I couldn't afford hat as well as £40 a week rent. Thats why I thought this ICS course was the ideal for me. Miya x

I think she was saying it because of her temper. She seems to have calmed down now but she was yelling downstaires at my dad saying "have you ever been close to wanting to hit someone that you might snap and hit them!?" I know she wouldn't hit me but it's not the point. I don't want to listen to that sort of talk and it is really the last thing I want to hear while I'm missing someone I usually turn to in a time of need. I felt sick with missing him because I feel like he is the only person in the world that undertsand and acres about me besides my older brother and sister. They can totally relate to what I have to put up with seeing as they have been there and done it. I'm still considering it but photography looks pretty amazing. Thanks for all your replies so far! Miya x

Hiya, I just wrote a post further down the board about more or less the same thing. I was with my boyfrend for 10 days and came back yesterday and now I miss him so much. I woke up feeling sick and teary and nothing seems worth doing because he's not here. Even things like making a coffee seems such an effort because we made them together. I do understand fully. I have 6th form College tomorrow but I'm in one of these moods were I feel like not facing anyone. I just want him. It's so hard and it's not just you being a girl, I reckon a lot of people go through the same things. Take care, Miya x

I never ever bring up with my other half that our relationship might not wrk out because he is so determined to work it out with me and to be honest I am with him. I know we will eventually meet new people in our lives but at the moment I want to make the most of what I have with him whether it will work out or not. I have to say I really hope it does. I would be living with hm for about a year or two and surely us being together will bring us even close without a distance in the way that could/would break us apart eventually. Living with him would mean I get more time with him he's like my best friend as well. I don't know if it would work out but I want to take the chance. If worst came to the worst I would live with my sister who lives about 2 hours away from London. My sister is twice my age and has said ever since I was young that there would always be a door open there and I wouldn't be expected to pay anything until I had found a job or something. At the moment I want to move down to be with my other half more and also to do this course. I'm not saying it would be easy by any means, I just want to change things. I have considered the ups and downs of the situation and tried to work around them. Thanks for your advice though, I really appreciate it because this is allnew to me. Miya x

Hey, Well the course I'm doing is £250 and I have money saved from chistmas and birthdays etc ... I would feel so much more motivation for doing a subject that I want to study. I did photography in year 10 and I loved it. I got a B for it so I was pleased and eventually my dad saw that I was good and bought me a digital camera and gives me his old ones when he buys new ones. I would get a job when I'm in London. I'm going down at summer to visit him so I would look for job then to support myself. It would only be for a year or so ... I have a fair few friends in London other than my other half. I would be going to uni eventually so I wouldn't be living with his mum and him for long. I am pretty sad with everything and I was sad with life before I met my boyfriend he was just an upside to my life. As for my parents I think it would make them appeciate me more as they did my elders when they left home. I just want a change. Miya x

Hey all, I live 300 miles away roughly from my boyfriend. He lives in London and I try and visit him whenever I can. Although I am 17 years old and because only one parent has a wage coming in, I'm very limited as to when I can see him. I got back from London yesterday after spending 10 days with him for the holidays and at the moment I feel really lost and alone. I didn't want to come home because I hate my life in my home town. I don't enjoy College that much, my parents are constantly on my case about something or other and I have lost touch with my friends now that they have gone to other Colleges. It's actually scary but if he wasn't apart of my life I would have nothing. I'm 18 in March so I will be classed as an adult then, I was thinking of dropping my current courses at College in the summer and moving to London. I just don't feel any motivation or enthusiasm at College to want to stay on anymore. So I was thinking of moving in with my boyfriend and doing an ICS course in photogaphy which is a big interest of mine. Eventually it will give me a qualification for university. For those who aren't familiar with ICS it's a course you can buy and you study it at home in your own time at your own pace. My other half thinks it's a great idea but I would have to pay rent of course for his mum to keep me as well. I just want to get away from here. My parents have not made me feel welcome at all ince I have been at home. My mum said she resents me living here and that it was much nicer when I was away. It's not exactly what you want to hear when you're hurting from being apart from a loved one. My mum even said she is close to hitting me because I'm in the way and because I have put a wash load on. I just want out but I want it for my best interest as well as being in atown were I'm cared about. So what do you all think? I really need some advice. Thanks for reading, Miya x

Thanks for that. I feel better knowing I'm not alone in m thoughts. I too realised I was so naive about how I was treat and I chose to ignore that because I was too afraid of getting hurt and in the end I did. It was awful, he ignored me for weeks and weeks and I couldn't get the image of him and his other half out of my head, it literally ate me up inside and I was so jealous and tourmented by it. I had days where I felt like just ending it and days when I felt calm because he decided he would log on MSN and he would charm me around. I want to be stronger and assertive and I'm afraid I lost nearly all my confidence. I think negatively a lot like why is Darren interested in me when theres better? or why do I have a boyfriend because I'm so ugly etc ... I just sometimes feel a waste of space and some things that happened I can't get over. He use to say he "loved" me and when people started finding out I had feelings for him, he denied it to save his own skin and watched me get knocked down with insults like "as if he would be interested in a malicious, nasty piece of work like yourself". After that remark by one of his friends I started to believe one thing which was, "why is anyone interested in me?" I mean ... why is it so hard for his friend to believe that he might of had feelings for me? What is wrong with me?? Even though I have Darren (and I do think the world of him) I just wish I could get rid of these little things that haunt me. Darren has been such an impact on my life. He picked me up when I had hit rock bottom and I'm so greatful to him for that. I'm so much happier but when I'm alone, or listening to music or I actually have time to sit back and relax ... I begin to think about things that hurt me. I just want to erase this guy from memory, I hate that I ever had feelings for him and I hate I even met and kissed him. The thought of it makes me sick and makes my skin crawl. I just feel like in a way I'm cheating on Darren with my feelings and I don't want that. I need/want Darren so much and the thought of losing him like I did this guy frightens me. Infact I fear it everday even though Darren has reassured me I wont and has given me no reason to doubt him. I guess because Darren has a girl flirting around him at College makes me feel terrotorial. I lost this guy to another women kinda of. I just don't want to go through the pain of believing someone loved me when all along it was a lie and then to get humiliated by it is so much worse. I need to really start building confidence again and I need to really try and forget this guy because he's no good. Thanks for your reply! MG x

Hiya!! I haven't been on here for quite a while actually. When I was on here I use to post frequently (everyday in fact) about the same problem. I use go on about this guy who I loved quite deeply and how he hurt me so badly. To be honest I was naive because he was so much older than me and was spoken for but he used to say he "loved" me and I use to believe it because it's what I wanted to hear. He's gone now. I don't talk to him anymore but I still think about him a lot and how hurt I got through everything he did to me. He played on my feelings for him, he made me out to be a liar to his other half and his mates and watched me get humiliated by people. Is it normal to still think about him? I moved on thanks to a friend. The guy on my avatar is Darren and he use to spend a lot of time on MSN talking to me and setting my head straight and gradually we became closer. We don't see each other much as we want because we live 250 miles away from each other. We're going out now and he makes me feel special and wanted and I want to keep him for as long as I can and he does feel the same way too. I'm going to see him with my best friend for 10 days after Christmas. We care a lot for each other but I still think about the guy who hurt me and I can't understand why? I want to erase him completely from memory and if I ever had the chance I'd make it so we never even met. The problem I'm facing at the moment is Darren has a girl at his College who flatters and flirts with him constantly. He told me about her on MSN the other night ad I really appreciated his honesty and he said he doesn't have any feelings for her what so ever and I believe him, so why do I feel insecure? and why do I still think about this guy whoa hurt me? I'm sooo scared I might get hurt again. Not sure what to do or if anything I've wrote has made sense. I just wanted to write down what was spiraling through my head.

Evening all, I just wanted to ask for opinions. I'm a really paranoid person and no matter how many times I get told, I never, ever believe I'm attractive. I just don't and I don't know why I feel that way. I feel insecure about my pale complexion, glasses and my ginger hair. These features make it hard for me to accept that people find me attractive and it bothers me a lot. I don't know how to feel comfortable about the way I look and I try and hide myself away because of it. Does anyone know how I can feel better about myself? Miya xx

Hiya, my parents don't know of the situation as yet. I'm not hiding it out of spite but I don't see a point of mentioning it until I have met Darren and thought about how we feel etc ... I will mention is to them when I'm more comfortable about it all. We're both 17 years old (I'm a month older). The downside is I don't drive, I can't really afford it while I'm AS student I'm afarid. The best I can do is to travel down every now and again to London to see him. Darren has a problem talking on phones too, he said he can't talk to his mum for more than 30 seconds either. So I guess we can text, e-mail and messenger one another. I was going with my best friend from College anyway. Thanks for your reply, Miya xx