Im having an affair im 25, he’s 43 and i have a boyfriend

[From_Now_On]

I don't want to be unkind here, but I can't make a reply without saying that letting a man buy you a house, while you cheat on him with someone else, is incredibly cruel. He deserves to know what is going on, so HE can decide what HE wants to do about all of this. It is okay to lose feelings with someone. It's okay to be uncertain. But your partner deserves to know what you are thinking/feeling when things are this serious. If he wants to give you space to figure it out, that should be his choice. But you are lying and taking advantage of him. I don't say that to be antagonistic towards you, it's just the truth. You need to talk to him and let him have input on these things. And absolutely do not let him buy you a house right now.