ineedmilk Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Hello, I have a question This guy that I swim with, a year older than me, always glances at me, and when I look back, he looks away. Except one time, he looked at me and we shared a smile. Except he never responds to me on social media, although he responds to many others. The social media/ chat thing I use is outdated, but he checks it and ignores my texts. We used to talk a bit about swimming, and stuff such as that, but it was always me initiating the conversation, while he replied in one word or less, most of the time. Sometimes he replied with a sentence telling me more about himself, but that was only a few times. I'm also a socially awkward person, and I get super nervous around him. I just want to know if I should take the leap of faith and try to talk to him one day, or if I should back off, in case I'm annoying him... Thank you! Link to comment
Thecheesecake1 Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Shy guys are the worst aren't they! I'm currently getting closer to a shy guy who was acting this way with me two months ago... I just didn't know how to read him. However, what i had to do was pluck up the courage to be the chaser...By that i don't mean message him every twenty minutes but apparently shy guys love it when the girl makes a move...You seem careful enough to know your boundaries so maybe create an incident to talk to him, it's what i did, i pretended like i was having a bit of a panic attack at work as a customer stressed me out, it was pathetic but we have more or less been chatting non stop since i made that move and actually went on a date last week. If you're scared about reaction/rejection maybe show him that you're confident and even mention something Like "hey! Have you seen a purple pair of goggles/glasses? I feel terrible cos they were a Christmas present!".. i know it seems cringey but when i made my pathetic move, i got a three hour conversation out of him and as i say, were not together but we have come a very long way. The guy i like had a gf when we first started speaking so never forget that could be the reason...... Link to comment
Wiseman2 Posted April 23, 2017 Share Posted April 23, 2017 Back off the social media but be more confident in person say hi small talk etc.The social media/ chat thing I use is outdated, but he checks it and ignores my texts. Link to comment
Unreasonable Posted April 26, 2017 Share Posted April 26, 2017 He ignores your texts? Seems to me that would be the preferred mode of communication for a shy person, but maybe not. He can't avoid your verbal conversation, but he can ignore your texts, and does. Fact of the matter is you HAVE talked to him, and haven't gotten anywhere. What exactly is it about this guy that you like so much? It doesn't sound like he's really into you. Link to comment
ineedmilk Posted April 27, 2017 Author Share Posted April 27, 2017 Ah no. He's recently responded to my messages, thank goodness. I did say I was using an outdated social media app, which is probably a big set-back on my part. Link to comment
ineedmilk Posted April 27, 2017 Author Share Posted April 27, 2017 I'm seriously trying to talk to him though, but I don't know what's going to offend him. Wish me luck, haha. Link to comment
Unreasonable Posted April 27, 2017 Share Posted April 27, 2017 I wouldn't worry about it offending him. But I wouldn't expect it to lead anywhere romantically. Link to comment
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