Need some advice on how to ask her out

[backwardsrain]

There is a woman who I have known for about a year. She is a dental assistant. She is 25 and I am 30. I know she is not seeing anyone right now because we both had a conversation about who we were seeing and what domestically was going on in our lives. I like her a lot.

 

The problem is this. I only see her when I go to the dentist. I rarely get a chance to speak to her alone. I don't want to make her feel awkward and I don't really think that professionally it might be viewed by the doctors in her office. I don't want to get her in trouble or embarrass her. I like my Dentist, but I like my dental assistant better so if it came down to having to go to a different dentist I am willing to do that

 

I have thought of a few Ideas on how to ask her, but I keep shooting them down in my mind.: I thought of sending a funny coffee cup UPS and then inside the box ask her to have coffee with me and leave my phone number…. I don't' know!!! That would be embarrassing to her I think and would be less than professional I think

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Also I know if I asked her it would catch her off guard because she has no idea that I would like to have coffee or dinner with her. So what suggestions do you nice people have for asking her out.

 

I would like something creative and funny. She lives by the motto that we all take life way to serious

 

Thank YOU !!!

[randy]

She lives by the motto that we all take life way to serious

 

I like the coffee cup idea. Its not bad. Now from that motto she lives by it says she likes funny things. Likes to laugh. I think its a good creative approach.

[tiger_lilies]

Wow, the coffee cup idea is great! I'd love for someone to make such effort to ask me out on a date. Go for it! Good luck and keep us posted on what happens!

[Day_Walker]

I agree that the idea is creative but does this lady remember who u are after you have left the office? My concern is that if you send this funny gift out of the blue that she might not remember then be hesitant to call. It would be best if you sent it the next day after you visited the dentist. If you are confident that she remembers you then why not send it a day before you go that way you get an immediate response.

[Beec]

I don't mind this idea of your, but I think it should be done right after you see her.

 

My big question is that you seem to see her alone, why not just ask when you do. My favorite way of asking is basically to tell her that I enjoy or like talking with her, wait and watch her reaction, suggest that maybe we should do it more or that I would like to do it more often, and again watch her reactions, and if her reaction is positive, ask her out. Her reactions have already told you "yes".

[backwardsrain]

hi,

Thanks all for the replys and advice. So ya all think that it would be a good idea for me to send the coffee cup with a card attached asking her out? And that would be better then just calling up the office and asking for her? I know that asking her out over the phone is easy it's just that like what some of you said before, I think it would make a better impression to send the coffee cup.

 

I know she will know who I am...That I am pretty sure about. As for seeing her alone. I haven't, but once been able to get her alone and make a conversation dealing with personal issues. I talk to her all the time and joke but there is always another in the room too. The office is a friendly place, but there are so many hygentists and dental assistants. It is hard to get her alone to propose the idea of going out. I am taking my son in (he is 4) on the 23rd. So I guess I will know for sure what the answer will be soon.

 

A vote on the sugesstion of having her call me... Should I ask in the note saying to call me if she would like to go out for coffee? Or should I just wait and see if she approches me on the 23rd? I don't want her to feel uncomfortable on the 23rd? I guess ether way we are both going to be uncomfortable hmmm.

 

Thanks

 

 

 

 

 

 

My big question is that you seem to see her alone, why not just ask when you do. My favorite way of asking is basically to tell her that I enjoy or like talking with her, wait and watch her reaction, suggest that maybe we should do it more or that I would like to do it more often, and again watch her reactions, and if her reaction is positive, ask her out. Her reactions have already told you "yes".

[tanned_production]

haha dont stress out about this too much... just listen to the advice they've given you... its good!!

 

the coffee cup idea is original and creative. what girl could say no?

[backwardsrain]

Well here is the letter I have prepared can someone tell me if this is ok...??

 

Dear XXXX,

 

I know this is kinda unusual and well…different. But that's just me I guess.

 

The coffee cup enclosed is an invitation to have coffee or some other beverage of your choice with me. I was going to ask you if I could make you dinner, but UPS charges an arm and a leg to ship pots and pans so I took this less invasive approach.

 

I hope you remember who I am… I am the guy who drives the car that says XXXXXX on the side. As you can no doubt tell I don't take a lot of things seriously most times. I was going to ask you out sooner, but every time I got ready too, I was numb or you had a sharp tool/weapon in my mouth so I didn't want to tempt fate. Well, my home phone number is: (937) 399-XXXX. I rarely am home to answer it, so leave your answer after the beep and as the machine says "leave your number and I will call you back".

[Beec]

My proposed edits above. I like the part about the pots and pans, do not lose it. I cannot figure out my sign off (Thanks, Take care, etc.), but the above is what I'd go with.

[backwardsrain]

My proposed edits above. I like the part about the pots and pans, do not lose it. I cannot figure out my sign off (Thanks, Take care, etc.), but the above is what I'd go with.

 

 

I like it.... THANK YOU SO MUCH!! Wish me luck

[MetallicAguy]

Who said asking her out had to be professional? Just go with what you think is right, don't over-think it. Have a simple idea that isn't stupid nor professional and it'll turn out great. Good luck.