The Perfect Date

[CamaroJoe]

I was supposed to go on a date last weekend or was the weekend before that? I forget exactly when but she cancelled on me 2 hours before hand saying she wanted to do something with her sister cuz she hadn't seen her in forever.

 

Well, I was talking to her last night, and we've hung out some since then but never had a 'formal' date. And I told her last night that she needed to let me take her out and she couldn't cancel this time lol ...and of course she agreed.

 

Well, I just wanted some opinions. Especially from girls but i'll take a guys perspective as well. I need some 'Perfect Date' scenarios. And I know everyone is different so the more 'Perfect Dates' posted, the better 8)

[DN]

Not to be sarcastic, but one definition woud be one that was not cancelled because she got a better offer of a more interesting time with her sister. That shows a less than enthusiastic interest. It is more than rude to do that within 2 hours of the appointed time.

 

Are you sure you want to date a girl who is that inconsiderate?

[CamaroJoe]

At least she had the decency to call me. Plus she said she hadn't seen her sister in a long time so, I didn't really mind. And she implied that this wouldn't be out only date anyway by saying she's sorry for cancelling on the first time.

 

I don't hold grudges like that.

[boredguy]

well, 'The perfect date' varies from girl to girl. now how bout u answer a few questions about her and we can help?

 

is she sporty? or sentimental?

extra-girly? mature/immature?

what kind of things does she like?

remember anything that shes said that u could use?

[DN]

I guess if she apologised and you are ok with it - but take note of the little red flag for future reference.

 

How about asking her what her interests are and think of something to do that meets those interests.

[CamaroJoe]

ok, this didnt work out the way i'd hoped lol....

 

Well, I know she likes sea food and she said she goes to the beach occasionally. So here's my scenario:

 

i get her a small bouqet of exotic flowers, hopefully, if possible, extremely unique and rare. Pick her up at around 4pm (it gets dark around 7:30pm or 8pm). We go to The Oyester Bar which is near the beach. Lets say we get done eatig around 6 or 6:30pm. Then we'd take a walk along the shoreline at the beach and watch the sunset and talk.

 

Then have romantic sex on the beach near the water and hope we don't get caught (to heighten the excitement) heh...

 

naw, i'm kidding about the sex thing...or am I? heh *it'll depend on the situation* 8)

 

How's that?

[boredguy]

that sounds pretty damn good. do u knw her favourite flower? that should be plus. apart from that everything looks good.

hmm sex on the beach...ive always wondered...isnt the sand annoying?...

[CamaroJoe]

no i don't know her favorite flower, but i'm sure if she got something that looked exotic or that it took me a long time to find, she'd love it regardless. Plus she should love it cuz it's coming from me anyway lol

 

The sand, i dont think you'd need to worry about that until afterward 8)

 

But if you are worried about it, then we can just skinny dip real quick before we leave. Then we can go home and take a warm soapy bath together.

[Riles84]

Sure fire way to seal the deal for the night ... DONT HAVE SEX WITH HER, DONT TRY TO MAKE OUT WITH HER .. at the end of the night, kiss her on the cheek and tell her how wonderful of a time you had, and you'll call her. This will show her how different then otehr guys you are, and she'll think about it for a while later becasue if shes feelign you she'll want that makeout kiss at the end and this will make her want it more the next night

[annie24]

I'm with DN on this one... that's really rude of her to cancel 2 hours before. What happened - her sis like, completely surprised her with the visit? Like, just showed up at the door out of nowhere? I think 24 hours notice is a sign of decency.... so... sorry... I'm not being much help here... the perfect date is different for everyone, so I can't really help you there.

[MetallicAguy]

I think it means she was pressured for her first date with you. It's fine I think, because I think everyone goes through this at one point. Seeing her sister that she hasn't seen in a long time is a bunch of crap, but then again it sounds true so I'm confused lol.

[Caldus]

Don't make it too formal. Whatever you decide to do, just have a good time with her.

[ComputerGuy]

hmm sex on the beach...ive always wondered...isnt the sand annoying?...

 

Annoying would be the understatement of the millennium

[Mjane]

Is this a first date?

Try not to go overboard and come off as an eager beaver... bring one flower not a bouquet.. I'm into understated messages that are meaningful... like I had a bf that bought me a book on SLEEP because I was having terrible insomnia... can you get her something small but that says you've listened to her talk?

[starstacy]

Please please please please please- Don't try to or plan on having sex with her on you official first date- one she might not give it up that easily (hopefully) and two she will think that sex is all you want. If you are wanting to give her an exotic flower make sure that you order them, don't expect to just walk into a flower shop and them to be there- you will only be disappointed. Not to mention flowers die- I mean I like to get flowers, but I would rather have something that I had mentioned in previous conversations that is more creative. Also instead of eating in why not make her (or if you are not a great cook buy her and pack) a picnic on the beach? Don't be too touchy feely just try to have a good time enjoying her company if you are wanting this relationship to progress!! Let us know how it turns out. PS things come up and people cancel- all that matters is that she is still talking to you and she wants to go on this date with you. If anyone held a grudge for everytime someone did something as insugnificant as that they would be very lonely.