Need advice from a guy on:What should I do to please my man?

[ConfusedChica]

My boyfriend and I have been going out for about a year now. At the beginning of the relationship I told him about how saving sex till marrige was importent to me and he said it was to him too.(We are both very religious.)

 

At this point we then talked about how far we had gone in the past. I told him that I had only made-out and he told me that he had gone further than that, But "not anything like sex though"?

 

This whole conversations was akward for me...I don't know why, but I just don't like talking about that kinda of stuff.

 

 

So all we have done in our relationship is make-out. I feel like that is all he feels he can do. The relationship is going VERY well; although it may be going too quickly, as I think I am in love with him...I can see myself with him for the rest of my life...actually I can't see my life without him. I don't have anything against doing more then making-out and I never have but I'm afraid he thinks I do.

 

 

I can tell he wants more and is afraid to do anything about it. I want him to be happy more than anything, but I don't know what to do. What would make him happy? What can I DO? I can't talk to him about this kinda of stuff, I can talk to him about anything else I just can't talk about this kinda of stuff....

What should I do make my man happy?

[sisterlynch]

We need to be able to discuss everything openly with our partner--especially if you plan on marrying him. He needs to know how to pleasure you just like you need to pleasure him, and if you can't talk openly with him, then you really shouldn't go any further with him, I feel.

 

He may have some secrets that he is hiding, and has always lied about and you are just the next person to him. Or maybe his feelings for you have changed but he is afraid of hurting you.

 

Either way the feelings are stalled because neither of you are able to break the "code of silence" that the two of you have inadvertently set up.

 

Maybe he is afraid you will leave him if you knew the truth about him. I don't know what is holding him back. I do know if you don't try and talk to him about sex, he will find ways of fulfilling his needs elsewhere. And you may not be prepared for that.

[rvr350]

I second the last post. If you think this relationship is worth investing in, communication should be among the top priorities. I understand being brought up in a religious family, sometimes people have a hard time talking about sex. But if you consider spending the rest of your life with him, you should be able to communicate with him what you think about sex. Maybe you both are just shy, but it is still good either you or him bring it out in the open, so there's no hidden trap later in your relationship. Hope that helps.

[abomi_nation]

it sounds to me like you are both just a little shy about talking about sex, and that is understandable but i would suggest encouraging him to be more open with you and i would also consider sharing some secrets with each other, that would probably make him more comfortable with you. GOOD LUCK!