mickyads92 Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Fair weather friends, flakes, I guess there are many terms for these people. I go to a commuter school and am pretty used to making "friends" that typically only last for a semester. I am used to it, but it doesn't mean that I am not bothered by it. I also have another circle of friends, mainly people that I have met through working retail or through friend of a friend type situations. My issue is this. Ulterior motives. I would be willing to bet all my savings that I have never once received a phone call or text to "hang out" or just "talk" without the other party needing something. I have no issue helping people, I used to enjoy helping people, probably too much. I can go weeks or months without hearing from these people, then out of the blue I'll get a phone call from one of them acting like we are still best friends and then eventually they will drop the bomb "hey while I have you on the phone I was wondering...." Am I selfish for just wanting to spend time with someone? I don't mind helping people but at the same time cant we just go out and have fun? For once? Please? I don't want to end up on your cold @$$ driveway working on your car again. Im not a cheap computer/auto technician you can just pretend to be nice to and call when you need something. Are these people even my friends? No phone calls to grab a beer, see a movie, head to the driving range, check out a car show. All things I love to do, things that I hate doing alone that I end up not doing at all. I'll be the first to admit that I am lonely and probably depressed, so whenever I get a call I never say no. Then I just end up feeling like an idiot for helping people that just use me. Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance. Link to comment
Willywagtail Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 Maybe look at yourself in this? Why do people want to use you (your words) and not be friends with you? Friendships are a 2 way street; maybe you need to think about the people you'd like to hang out with and invite them for a beer or a movie. Link to comment
luxurylover Posted March 17, 2015 Share Posted March 17, 2015 sounds like how i used to be. i feel like it's ok to ask for a favor every now and then. but if it becomes a habit from the same people, and youre giving giving giving, you have to ask yourself, are these friends? make sure youre letting friends into your life and not users. i had to clear out alot of ppl in my life for this very reason. Link to comment
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