ojk85 Posted February 12, 2015 Share Posted February 12, 2015 I posted my story here a while back. As a refresher, I got dumped by my ex from a 2.5 yrs of a long distance relationship. We got cold and the distance got farther, she took all our plans of closing the distance, getting married and we both took on separate paths, this was last November... I have been moving on just fine. Picked up a second job and keeping myself busy. When I have time, I go out with friends and some dates here and there. I have been planning my future, planning on trips, how I will reinvent myself and pursue my goals... I think I have been moving on just fine... Until just now... my friend just texted me... saying that my ex moved here... in the same town... with the same circle of friends... Im just literally destroyed, felt like my heart jumped out and back... felt like back to zero... all these thoughts crossing my mind... why is she here? after dumping me? she didnt have to be here, it was easier when shes so far... I dont know how I'm gonna deal with this... especially if we cross paths... the distance never gave me a chance to fight for my love a few months ago... why now? Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 Just keep doing what you're doing. Some of us have to even see our ex's regularly - kids, mutual property - and we get through it. Something that helped me was practicing running into my ex. I worked with a drama therapist to deal with having to see and communicate with my ex on a regular basis. Being prepared helped a lot. Imagine different scenarios and how it might be best to handle them. What would you say? How would each of you react in your mind? Tap into your inner James Bond (or your icon of style and sophistication) and ask yourself, WWJD? (What would James do?) You can do this! Link to comment
So Upset Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 You could also meet with her and get some answer of why she's in your town and what you expect from her when both of you are in the same place. Why have a mystery of why she's back. Step up instead of stepping back; you deserve some answers. If she's rude to you then you know she's not worth your time anymore Link to comment
AutumnBorn Posted February 13, 2015 Share Posted February 13, 2015 You could also meet with her and get some answer of why she's in your town and what you expect from her when both of you are in the same place. Why have a mystery of why she's back. Step up instead of stepping back; you deserve some answers. If she's rude to you then you know she's not worth your time anymore It's not his town. It's a town. He can't make her move; she can live wherever she wishes and owe anybody answers. Making silly demands will make OJK look like a complete ass. Their relationship is over. Of course she's not worth his time anymore - they aren't in a relationship. He needs to work on himself and his healing, practicing self-care. We can only control ourselves. Nobody else. Link to comment
ojk85 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Share Posted February 13, 2015 Got my answer, I talked to her friend she assured me that shes only here for work and I should let go of all hopes about reconciliation and just let go. Not gonna lie, for a few hours I was thinking about it, how it may happen, and what it would be like.. We broke up very distant from each other and now shes in an arms reach, part of me was hoping for it, I should know more than anyone, that I have to stop lying to myself.. Thanks a lot guys for the read... Link to comment
ojk85 Posted February 14, 2015 Author Share Posted February 14, 2015 And now she's dating an acquaintance. Things just getting harder and harder. Link to comment
Betteralready Posted February 14, 2015 Share Posted February 14, 2015 Hang in there, it sucks but you'll be okay. Link to comment
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