diana084 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Would you be jealous if your bf/gf would be talking to other girls/guys online? Just want people's opinions. Link to comment
jasminebose Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Would depend on how they were talking (e.g flirting) and the frequency of the chats. If flirting and often I would def. not be impressed. JZ Link to comment
savannahohsavannah Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 I would only be jealous if they were doing something like cybering. And then I would flip out. I have green eyes, you know! Link to comment
MetalJoe Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Nope, unless they were obviously flirting or the like. Link to comment
GettingOverIt Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 I agree, only if flirting were to come into play. I have convos online with several folks (some I've met on here), and sometimes, you just want an outside opinion or another perspective. Keep it light and loose, or even if it goes into deep feelings or issues, as long as there is no flirting, then I wouldn't worry about it too much. If it is a concern though, then the couple should talk about it openly and honestly. You have to have friends outside of the relationship.... Link to comment
diana084 Posted January 18, 2005 Author Share Posted January 18, 2005 Well I dont talk to other guys online,I have old friends on my list but I barely talk to them nowdays.When I go online is mostly to talk with my bf.But he talks to other girls.Thats ok with me cause I know he has a lot of female friends,he even had this friend at college that he used to go to her house to study with.Some people would probably get jealous but I didnt,cause I trust him. But then the other day he was telling about this girl his friend introduced him to online and that he had seen her,and when I asked how come? he said she had a webcam.So I was like ok,but I cant deny something bothered me,I dont know why? I never talk to his friends,he wouldnt even care about giving me their e-mail addresses.I guess cause I dont do it I kind of feel like its not 'that' right,but maybe I'm wrong,right? Link to comment
GettingOverIt Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Well, as long as he's not flirting with them, I wouldn't worry too much. You said the key to the whole issue - you trust him. As long as he doesn't do anything to break that trust, and as long as you talk to him about the things that bother you and he reassures you with his words and his actions towards you, you'll be just fine! It may be hard to understand it all because you don't do it, but you sound like you've got a pretty solid head on your shoulders! Link to comment
qt Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 erm to some extent, im only human. i dnt think i'd be too jealous unless it lead to something more than just talking. i know that he gets jealous of me talking ot other guys, cos hes worried he'll lose me, but hes nothin to worry about, because i love him so much. qt xxx Link to comment
GettingOverIt Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 qt, as long as HE knows he has nothing to worry about, you're okay! And, showing him in little ways and telling him exactly what you've typed here will go a long way to him trusting you with your friends and your online friends!! I think because of some of the 'horror stories' about online friendships/relationships, some people tend to over-react when they find out their significant other has online friends... As long as we do what we can to alleviate those fears with that person, then we're able to build strong, trusting relationships... Link to comment
Gauchori Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 well... if we are talking abou gf and bf... and because in these days for some people looks is all that matters... I'll say that a guy or girl could get pretty jelous if he/she finds out that his/her guy/girl is talking to someone significally a better looker than he/she is.... But if you ask me... I would shore don't care and it would not matter to me at all what so ever.... Since I don't have a gf.... Link to comment
shuntaro603 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 Like the others said, I would only be jealous if he/she is flirting with his/her cyber friends. Link to comment
lillady898 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 I probably would have been jealous and worried if he was talking only to other females a few months ago, but we have progressed to where I really trust him. I know he talks to girls who are his old friends from highschool occasionally, and I'm completely fine with that. I guess it would probably bug me a little more if these were girls he's just newly meeting and got their screenname to talk online. I can't exactly explain why. I guess I just don't understand why he'd want their screennames while he's with me. I know that he wouldn't do that because he's really not interested in meeting other girls, but atleast now I've thought about it! Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 I'd be more bothered by the fact that I was dating someone who had to use the computer to make friends. Link to comment
lillady898 Posted January 18, 2005 Share Posted January 18, 2005 I'd be more bothered by the fact that I was dating someone who had to use the computer to make friends. Is the question about meeting someone online and talking, or meeting someone outside the internet and talking online later? Now I'm a little confused... Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 My apologies for going a bit off topic, but I try to avoid dating girls in either situation. Meeting people online when I am dating them or spending time talking via IM. Link to comment
diana084 Posted January 19, 2005 Author Share Posted January 19, 2005 Either way.Meeting them and talking to them online later or meeting them online. Link to comment
diana084 Posted January 19, 2005 Author Share Posted January 19, 2005 Yeah,like I dont get it,cause there's no necessity to be online talking to people you met there,you can meet people in real life.I mean,its ok if you have some online friends but not like be looking for girls or guys online to talk to,especially if you have a partner,right? I go online to talk with my bf cause we're far awary right now.And I have some friends from higschool there.But its not like I go looking around for guys to talk to.This is not what my bf does either,but his friend does,and he was the one who introduced him to 'this' girl.And my bf says that because she's a friend of his friend,he has to talk to her.And what I mean is,I dont ever talk with his friends and I've met them in real life,lol,so its not like he says that he 'has to',right? Anyway,looking forward to more opinions. Link to comment
Gauchori Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 Well you have to know that its different if you find someone that needs help like... here... one enotalone... If you find some you can help why not help them and talk to them? Thats different from going somewere and just loking for girls your age to talk to. Thats a comment that I added... Link to comment
GettingOverIt Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 I agree... Talking with someone you meet on sites like this one really is different... I mean, things kinda start out as just helping or whatever, but sometimes those conversations can turn into friendships. As long as the person isn't flirting or more, then I don't see the big deal... I don't care if you meet people in person, online, via pen-and-paper - whatever... Most of us can always use another friend... Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted January 19, 2005 Share Posted January 19, 2005 Of course I would agree this is different, we are all here to help each other out in times of need. I am talking about places like Hotornot and myspace, where people go to meet each other.....I wouldnt date a girl I knew was on there or participated in that kind of website. Link to comment
Gauchori Posted January 20, 2005 Share Posted January 20, 2005 well... in that way, I shore agree with you... In those places... its like your giving yourself away... weiting to be hurt or you just look like some animal that needs love.... No ofence.... Link to comment
AllAlone Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 well i talk to another guy... but its not flirtin.. but i guess all the same i would be jealous if he was talkin to a girl Link to comment
Iceman26 Posted February 15, 2005 Share Posted February 15, 2005 Absolutely. There is no need to. And if I was with a girl that sees a need to talk to someone of the opposite sex on the internet then I wont date her. Link to comment
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